This is petty, but it's infuriating me

[bumbother]

My ex is incapable of texting or talking to me about our DC without referencing his wife.

Everything is "we've" asked DC, "we've" told DC, "we'll" arrange... And it's everything, including the most mundane, trivial things.

I get on fine with him (99% of the time) and his wife, and we've been split since DC was a baby.

Would this irritate anyone else?

It is petty, though I can understand why you are irritated by it and I think I would be too. Just focus on getting along 99% of the time and take a deep breath the other 1.

Thanks for humouring me @sue51

I would never make a thing if it. It just makes him come across as being unable to think or act for himself, which I doubt is far fromthe desired effect!

Thank God eye rolls are silent

Some people use we a lot, I wouldn't take it too much to heart.

Thanks @anniehm I know in the grand scheme of things it's totally irrelevant.

Maybe I'd find those people you know irritating too. Like "we're pregnant" people

Yeah my ex does that and has done ever since he moved in with ow. It makes me laugh actually. It's utterly pathetic and just makes both of them look desperately insecure. 'we think that DS should..' 'we feel..' yes alright dear, I know you're together, she's welcome to you!

Im in the same boat and highly embarrassed it annoys me so much. Its three years down the line he moved in with OW and its still all 'we'.

Im suoer glad im not part of that 'we', have a new partner, house etc but the 'we' (ill admit to irrationally) angers me. Especially as its his GF whondors everything. I feel like its unfair to her too as she does the major share of parenting.

My husband does this to his ex. It actually really embarrasses me.

My ex does this and I used to absolutely hate it. It made me feel like he was rubbing his “happy family” in my face.
Then I remarried and without thinking starting doing it too

I don't like the way married people morph into 'we', as if they are no longer individuals but it's not worth getting hacked off with him(or them :-) ) about it, especially as you do get on.

Yeah it would piss me off hugely because since he met her she's never met his DS or encouraged him to see his DS, and he hasn't bothered

If they had though I would still be wound up that a third "parent" was being forced upon us I think... unless she put in the graft that I do and benefited DS she could fuck right off from being "we" when DS is mentioned

Not bitter at all me

It is petty - but it's also bloody annoying.

I had this with my ex - if it's any consolation it's likely for the same reasons - she was checking his texts and insisting things were worded that way to address her own insecurities. Pathetic!

Would annoy the hell out of me. I'm very concious if not ever doing it to my ex-and it would strike me as either thoughtless (or him being deliberately goady) if he did it to me. I guess it depends on circumstances of break up to some degree and in some cases (mine would be one )

Thanks folks, made me feel better about my petty self I'll smile when he does it now, rather than eye roll.

He's not a bad spud by any means, he just has this way with words sometimes that makes him come across as a slightly pompous twit Could be worse!