Childhood

[lyndar]

Has anyone had a horrible childhood how has it affected you as an adult if at all

Good things - I am very independent, resourceful and have developed a thick skin, so I don’t let silly, spiteful or small minded people get to me. And I make sure my dc knows I love him, every single day.

Downside, I’m not very trusting.

So not all bad.

@Seniorschoolmum sound similar to.Me
Is What do you do for a living inspired h hy your childhood

Positive - I don't take shit from people.
I am independent and resourceful.
My kids KNOW I love them.
I am a good listener and fair.
I love helping people.

Negatives- I was never allowed an opinion so can't make simple decisions like what colour I'd like to paint my bedroom walls.
I don't trust people.
I don't ask for help.
My mental health is fragile.
I don't take proper care of myself as my self esteem is low. (I love taking care of others though)

Sort of. Having watched dm having a fairly rotten time totally dependent on df, I got plenty of qualifications and didn’t have a real relationship until my career meant I was independent with mortgage & car by myself.

Like ghost I tend not to ask for help so have built up the oddest set of skills

Yup.

Mental Health issues, Trust issues,

Still stumbling on the 'Accept' part of dealing with my family and staying the hell away. I will struggle with it for the rest of my life .... BUT...

As much as it is hard, I'm a bloody good person, I'm independent, caring, understanding, great at calming down conflict, emotionally resilient and I have a massive heart.

However ... cross me or my child and I can revert back to the wolfpack. It sometimes comes in handy

So interesting that we all have big hearts even when our childhoods were crap
I put my children first and try to give them everything that I didn't have - proper nutritious meals ;conversations; education at home ; sports and swimming lessons ; life skills : The lack of these made me a target for people who had good solid upbringings -I was bullied for not knowing how to have a conversation -The lack of these made me a weirdo in their eyes
I often wonder what it is like to have parents looking after your children whilst you can chose what hours to work or when the children are doing my head in I often wish I had parents that would have them for the weekend ; I look at families having barbecues and shopping together and wow it always strikes a chord : people are so lucky and I often wish that I had a chance to start again at life to experience what having a family is : my children haven't got their father in their lives and that llllwas the result of me choosing a bad man which stems from not understanding healthy relationship i llllook at really cruel selfish people all around me -people who are seemingly unaware of what damage they are doing to their children either that or they don't care and think to myself I am living in a disgraceful universe and can't see it ever changing for the better : excuse punctuation keypad is broke

I know exactly what you mean.

I’ve had various therapies all my life and I still struggle with boundaries. I used to look at families in the street and get all forlorn and envious but not so much these days now I have my girl. I struggle with the sound of children crying, esp if they are distressed (like mum is strapping them into buggy and they don’t want to. Whenever I hear kids cry, I get super distressed, agitated, anxious and usually end up in tears. I’m highly sensitive to sound, particularly when upset. It’s why I hate supermarkets... total onslaught on ur senses, lights, music, signs, smells. All the marketing

@AnnaKiss wouldn't say I was envious just sad I didn't have the chance to have a family growing up to love and guide me
Do you think you may have sensory sensitivity

@AnnaKiss sorry by boundaries I'm not sure what you mean