A thread for lonely lone parents. Or is it just me?

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I have a heap going on and I feel so isolated and fed up. I feel like I've let my children down so badly because their father is horrible and it just feels a bit unfair. Okay. A lot unfair. Anyone else down in the dumps?

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Not easy at all is it?

Very easy to get lonely and have nowhere to dump your emotions, you have to stay strong to provide support for your children.

It's not just you

Thank you. Am not a Facebooker but the link does look good. The day improved. Hope yours did too.

Another sad and lonely one here DH DIED almost a year ago and I've got 2 kids under 3. All my friends moved away years ago but I never really minded as I had my husband.

I find I'm just waiting for the day to end most days and then feel awful that I feel that way. I was such a better parent before this and I feel I'm letting them down. What do you do to kill the time when they're in bed?!

I'm sorry for your loss.

I've done a variety of things, including sitting in a heap and crying.

I write lists and do jobs. Netflix. Clean. Cook. Paint my nails. Get organised buying stuff on Amazon for birthdays and Christmas.

Cry. Did i say cry?

Go to bed really early. Then I get up bright and early. That's my best routine.

It's the no company company I yearn for.

Op, you haven’t let anyone down. Your ex turned out to be horrible so you extracted you and your dcs from the situation, and have made a home for them and you. I’d say that was pretty successful.

I’m 6 years in to the same. It’s not my fault my ex is a git. I fell for a lie but I’ve dealt with it and so have you. Be proud of yourself. You won’t be on your own for long. . Look forward to the new year

Ooh, we have a hobby in common....I cry too! I really need to find a hobby but by the time the kids are in bed the only thing I can motivate myself to do is eat ice cream by the tub. I tried Netflix but there was so much I spent more time looking for what to watch than actually watching anything.

I'm the same in that I really miss the company and being part of a couple/family. Not a chance to I want to date any time soon though which makes it worse as I know I'll be lonely for ages.

Do you have any single friends? I find once you get to the stage of having a family, most people are in couples so when you end up single you've nobody in the same boat.

Hope you're feeling a little less fed up

I hope with time passing things have started to ease slightly. Life can be very tough sometimes but I find generally the people I work with (myself included) come out stronger in the end, it's just the process can feel lonely and painful throughout.

Take care.

Yes, lonely here too! Single mum to a 15-month old non sleeper who has only just started sleeping longer stretches

Newly single mum to a 20 month old. I work full time, no family near by and not many friends. It's lonely and at times overwhelming...

Solo mum here husband passed away a year ago- two
Children 8 and 10. Fuck all social
Life as everyone has disappeared as they can’t cope with Bereavement and don’t know what to say to us. Got through the first year that was my goal, now thinking I have another year to get through.

Single mum to a 6 and 3 year old, work full time so it’s not too bad in the week but the weekends can be tough. It’s lonely being the only adult in the house, I really miss having someone to chat with.

There is an organisation called WAY i.e. widowedandyoung.org for get togethers of widows and widowers aged under 50 with their chilren.

I knew somebody who went and apparently it was well worth attending.

It is specifically for families bereaved by a partner and you take the children. It is all over the country.

Considering 1 in 4 families are single parents there must be plenty in the same boat as others it is just a case of meeting them.