Why is it so hard for them to do their bit.

[Louw12345]

Ex has paid no CM since July. So if told him he needs to start providing clothes for his house as they never bring all their clothes back.
Last week he picked them up from school, my daughter came home Sunday in tears coz he made her where shoes that was too small. These are new shoes he bought these are shoes that they was given from his partners sister.
He also made her go out in Saturday night with her school shoes on.
They washed their uniforms but didn't send ties home either (I didn't ask them to wash it).
I feel so bad for her coz she was saying they hurt this morning to. I feel I put her in that situation well I did didn't I coz dad didn't step up and I'm also her parent. I just don't understand why he wouldn't nip to asda and get her some trainers.

Having such a hard time at the min trying to get him to step up to his responsibilities. I'm sure his gf agrees he shouldn't be paying for them.
How bad must it be for the kids to go to their house full with everything for the baby not hardly anything for them?
It's just a basic right that they have the basics provided for by a parent surly this is correct

Why is he not paying anything? Contact CMS and put in a claim for child support.

It was on a attachment from earnings but he lost his job. Got a new one but said we could do direct pay. Obvs I didn't realise what game he was playing obvs had no intention of paying it. CMS are setting up an attachment on earnings again but I haven't heard anything back as of yet. They said it can take up to 13 weeks

He has a large debt he would be paying £41 a week but coz he doesn't want to they said he has to pay £91 a week. An attavhement from earnings means he will have to pay 20% on top of the £91 so I know by the time it's sorted out he will leave his job again then back to square one

That’s taking a long time. I would call them up and ask for and update on where they are with that. If he leaves his job he’s cutting off his nose to spite his face. He’s doing himself out of an income just to avoid paying for his DC. He may not want to do that. Keep going with the CMS claim.

Tell him either he faces up to his responsibilities and pays towards the care of the Dc OR they can go and live with him.(obvs just a bluff, you wouldn't do it really, but it might make him think!)

Would he be open to persuasion? You give him a list of your income and expenses so he can see how much you spend on the DC? And what they need but you can't afford.

We have 5 children together. I have sent a picture of what i had to pay for just the older two when they went back to school. For trips and books (year 10 and 11).

His eldest asked him to help towards a so i trip he said he would go halfs £15 a week. He said he would pay it weekly as that how he got paid, I made him a payment plan then he said he will pay it monthly. He made 1 payment. 3 months left to pay now

I don't know what he doesn't think he should pay it. My eldest who is 16 has wanted to change her last name for the past 6 years coz he been so flaky with contact, I said she had to wait as soon as she was 16 she changed it. With her own money. If that isn't enough to make you think what is?

I can't tell him anything he doesn't communicate with me have to do it through his girlfriend. So I asked her to have a chat with him. She said she did I asked what was concluded and she never replied says it all really. Even said we can come to an arrangement with regards to the debt but still nothing.

His gf gos back to work this month and their child is going to nursery so I suppose they will need the money for the fees.