One year on, things are worse than ever

[Lifesonlyjustbeginning]

Hi all,

Last year my mental state hit rock bottom. My ex ran off with a woman 15 years older than us. I was a student nurse with 2 young children and struggling physically, financially and emotionally.

One year on.. I’ve qualified and started my new job yeyyy... but my ex is still with new woman/ cougar bitch/ home wrecker ha ha. No; apart from emotionally tormenting me showing off to mutual friends and Facebook how amazing he now is ... I’ve learnt to accept her (I think)!! Well my kids like her & that’s all that matters to me now and I actually feel sorry for her that she become involved with my ex who’s a horrible individual when she should be enjoying her 40s.

After getting so much abuse off my ex MIL I cracked and told her exactly what I thought of her. This landed me with a PINS police notice so I was no longer able to contact ex, or his family!

He stopped turning up to pick kids up and the kids and I were thriving! June 18 a court application came through my door. Shock horror he didn’t even turn up to the first hearing!!! And 3 weeks ago (5th hearing) he didn’t turn up to that either..... we are back again next week. He has seen them 3x in 7 months and I feel so sorry for my/our kids. I’m going to go in full steam ahead and fight for no more contact. He messes our kids around and he is not deserving of them. My little boy is suffering majorly because of him and as his mother it is my duty to protect him from monsters.

Despite him being such a c**t... leaving me to raise our kids alone, making me out to be a nutter, stopping financial support... I still have the days where I miss him??? Is this normal? I want my family unit back and to turn him back to when he was half decent partner and father!!!

He does everything with her that I begged for him to do with me... he does everything with her instead of spending quality time with our kids.

It’s like I hate him , but jealous of what he has?

I’m super lucky I have our children, but I can’t help but think the courts will rule in his favour .

My heads a mess.

Will I ever come out the other side?

oh op things sound tough at the moment and sounds like you need support

maybe a thought but you may get more answers in relationships/chat

very big congratulations on your new job

Do you really miss him or is it that he's doing the things with her you wanted him to do with you?

It's also normal to want the family unit back, it was a safe havan for you and the kids but do you think it would be if he came back.

You are doing fantastic with your career and raising your children. I'm a student studying health and social care no where near as demanding as a nurse and I struggle so I understand you. But you achcived that without him and that's amazing.

Your family now is you and your kids. And believe me him messing about how he does he will one day lose their love but that's down to him.

You are doing a brilliant keep it up and try and forget about him. Your children have you parent that loves and cares about them. He's loses out.
Take care