Sick of feeling like a money grabber

[Louw12345]

I'm now trying to think differently, I need to get it out of my head that he should provide because it really boils my piss!

He's been flaky with his child maintenance for like forever. But constant when he got his new gf preganat now nothing for months since April. Was on attachment of earnings then he got sacked for not going in. Assuming he had a messy party week getting coked up like always.

Promised he would help with our daughters ski trip which was £998 I paid the deposit of £150 then split the rest between us. He paid 1 month and promised his daughter he will get the money. (Was working when he could of paid his 3 months worth).

Manages to plan a christening, plan a wedding, move house and have a week a Blackpool.

He should be providing £41 a week for his five children, I ask for nothing extra, no help with uniforms, no extra access during the holidays, no picking up from school when I'm at uni and he's sat at home nothing. But coz he didn't want to pay it he has to pay £91 a week coz he won't ring them to lower it!

Spoke with his gf as this is how we have to communicate, he doesn't want to discuss things with me. I asked her mother to mother to have a word she said she did but when I asked what he said she didn't reply.

Makes me sick tbh but I'm also made to feel shite for asking for it. £41 for 5 kids is not alot of money and the I don't want loads just enough to help them have a better life. I still haven't finished the bloody school uniforms off and 1 needs a coat the other has had to buy a coat out of her birthday money!

My youngest is 7 and if got another 11 years of this bullshit so I need to get over it now it makes me bloody ill.

Sorry for the rant

I come from a family of 6 that was in a similar situation. Mum left with kids, 2 still in the cradle.
it was hard for her and us, we were clean but scruffy, we didn't have luxuries, we struggled with heating, electric and gas and sometimes food was in short supply.
Those of us that were old enough worked, we begged, borrowed and sometimes stole. Work would be anything, paper rounds, milk rounds, farm work, washing cars. gardening.

I just want you to know, we all survived and thrived. The family is now bigger because we've all grown up and had our own kids, but we stick together through thick and thin. We are all doing well.

I know and understand how hard it is. Just wanted to give some support. You and your kids will survive this.

Thank you. They adore him well the younger ones anyway and it's horrible to think he doesn't think the same for them.

His gf even asked me send them gloves this weekend coz they are going out. I mean kids gloves we don't have matching ones but why should I suply them? Why should I have to send them toothbrushes or even food when I struggle myself.

My family are amazing like you said we went through th3 same thing so are closer as a family and support each other as much as we can.

I know I can do it it's just frustraighting some times