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Overwhelmedandlonelymommy · 26/10/2018 20:44

i feel like a worthless piece of shit... BF went the pub yesterday and didn’t come back, he spent money on the pub when we needed baby milk and didn’t tell me where he was. i don't know what hes been up to but we argued yesterday as the result of me wanting us to be a bit more romantic with each other as we don't really do much together as a couple and he went off on one saying i was lazy and stuff so why should he. thing is though,i can be pretty lazy sometimes but when i am tidying or taking baby to play groups he criticises what i am doing and it makes me feel like whatever i do isn't good enough. I have tried telling him this but he stands smirking at me and calling me weak and pathetic so i think deep down he resents me and only sees the negative in me now. He left the house but i spoke to him and we discussed dinner on the phone and then i found out he was in the pub and he hung up on me and i didn't hear off him all day. didn't know what was going on until i borrowed a text from a friends phone and he said he was ending it with me. Friend bought me some food and things for the children. I'm just really down. I think hes got issues too, his lack of communication and drinking when stressed doesn't help anybody. Hes vile when drunk and doesn't know when to stop so ends up vomiting everywhere and accusing me of all sorts, or like last night texting me saying how rubbish i am in bed ect. He wont admit hes at fault for anything though, makes me feel worthless, i am a very affectionate person so maybe he doesn't like it but he used to be affectionate too. i don't know where i stand or what to do. i know deep down we are good for each other but he wont commit or make the effort to be romantic sometimes. he pulls away from me when we kiss and it started to really get me depressed. when i told him how i felt he snapped at me and told me to get a grip and not 'Feel'. whatever that means, i cant turn my feelings off. i have tried to focus on just the girls, i took baby to play group on my own, he didn't want to come with so my sister came with me as was nervous going alone to the first one. I will go back now though as i enjoyed it and baby had fun. He refuses to bath Baby so her hygiene is all left for me to do, yet he moans that i don't help or support him in the house. like i said though when i do help in the house hes down my ear or hovering behind me telling me how to scrub the plates better or whatever. His parent's don't seem to care even though they know what goes on and they just allow him to move bk in to their house to go get drunk with them. (they like a drink too) i don't know what to do anymore. Admittedly i probably haven’t been the best girlfriend due to having a few mental health issues which meant that for a while he didn’t work because i was struggling, he has said that i stopped him working to his family & friends which in his mind i suppose it feels like that but i didn’t do it on purpose. I am feeling better in myself now & he was looking for work again. It seems that since i mentioned the romance he just switched. This isn’t the first time he has left me and our baby. How do i move forwards with this now?

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youbrokemytwatometer · 27/10/2018 00:07

OP, ask for your thread to be moved to Relationships. You'll get so much support there. But I can tell you now, him leaving you is the best thing he has ever, and will ever, do for you. You make sure that this time it's permanent. He's beyond awful and I promise you do not deserve the shit he's putting you through 

TashEtan · 27/10/2018 00:57

I second that price of advice!

You should have left him. No one deserves to be treated like that. I know it’s hard I was in a similar kind of relationship for 7 years!! I have two kids and am finally free from that negative, disgusting behaviour! It’s the best thing that has happened to me. I hope you find the inner strength to remove yourself from such people.

Starlight345 · 27/10/2018 21:24

I hope he is leaving for your sake . I think you will find how much happier you are .

How can he spend the babies milk money in the pub what a wanker

youbrokemytwatometer · 28/10/2018 22:07

Hey, OP. How's it going?

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