Does your ex feed the kids?

[donnalouise1977]

Kids had their first overnight at ex. He phoned me at 6:45pm to say he hasn't fed them and could I as he can't afford to. Coming from the man who owes me nearly 1k in child maintenance as he hasn't paid me.

What do others do in this situation? I obviously picked them up and fed them but they were both shattered as 7 is normally their bedtime and they didn't up up going to bed until 8:30

Is contact a formal (i.e. court) or informal arrangement? Of course he should feed them and if he can't then contact needs to be stopped. Poor kids, glad you were able to go and get them.

Yes, he should be feeding them on his time and at his expense.

I’m a DSM - the kids arrive at ours at 8pm Fri night (kids are 9 & 12) and mum doesn’t feed them after school (apart from a snack). No problem at all - family mealtimes are important. Shame on him.

Is he fucking stupid?! What an idiot. ExDP feeds DS when he is with him if he needs feeding/is mealtime.

Of course he should feed them. What a waste of space. I’d be saying the kids can’t go there if he’s not capable of providing basic care for them.