Please can I ask for your long distance child arrangements?

[princessmum1]

Currently going through court with my ex.

He moved after split and is now 300 miles away.

Please can you give examples of your child arrangements in long distance situations? Currently going through court and finding it hard to find any examples of what might work.

Thank you!

My children see their dad during school holidays mainly.
Easter christmas and summer holidays he collects the children and takes them back home with him for approx 7 days he does this twice during summer holidays at the beginning and end. He also comes visits them on birthdays, but this would be taking them out during the day for a few days and I have them back for the night. We are very civil so all agreed between us.

My brother has a court arrangement for the mother of his child to have child every 4 weeks for Friday through to Tuesday their child still in nursery so no school commitments. She lives about 600 miles away now.

Myself and my brother ensure that our children speak to their dad/mum once a week through Skype, FaceTime aswell

*My childrens dad lives 400 miles away from us now

My ex moved 100 miles away.

He comes to see ds on Sundays, 9.30 -6 and they use my sitting room. I go out. I don’t provide food so they go out for lunch. I tried to get ex to take ds out but he is too mean/ lazy/lacking in imagination, so he refused. Then ds wanted to learn a sport so I booked a regular class on a Sunday afternoon. Ex takes him there, watches him, brings him back.

Ex also has ds one weekend in 7 ie. half term. Plus a week In the summer and four days at Xmas.

It’s not ideal but better than ds spending hours every weekend on a motorway. And ds is happy so I’ll cope.

It would be harder if I had a new partner.

Interesting.
My ex is moving to Amsterdam next weekend. I have no idea what the childcare arrangements will be...

Now adult DS went to his father's is the US for the whole of Christmas and Easter holidays and 1 month in the Summer holidays. Pre- School we would travel three times a year backwards and forwards and whoever travelled stayed in the other parents flat while the other went to their mothers. So if i went to USA i would stay in Xs flat and he would take DS and go and stay at his mother's and if he had to work i did the childcare. A right bloody faff but we were really young and didn't have new partners or children until many years later.