Ex partner DD's Dad has written in the contact book that because I have been disrespectful to him (in his perception - the only thing I can think I have done is just that I have simply not responded to his attempts to meet up and chat about parenting as he has requested - due to the fact I still get PTSD flashbacks from any contact with him - even seeing contact book on the kitchen side gives me chills and chest tightening). We had shuttle mediation and every that was incredibly stressful and fruitless as he would not agree to anything unless it's exactly to the letter what he wanted.
The contact book is court ordered to be used to communicate about DD's day to day wellbeing. During this threat in the contact book, what he wrote to me was insulting, accusatory and hostile etc. I have been nothing but civil and focussed on DD and facts.
He wrote that the "consequence" of this is that he will reduce his contribution and that he is no longer willing to "go out of his way to support me financially" (he makes no mention of DD, he thinks the money he pays is out of his good graces to help ME out)
He said he will now only pay what the government would assess that he "owes" me, which would be a £75 a month reduction all of a sudden - coupled with this I have just moved house and increased my outgoings so that me & DD can live in a house with a garden & that decision was based on the fact he pays me £200/month as part of my budget as to whether I could afford to make the move.
I don't know how I would find that extra money in an already stretched budget, I have already stopped having haircuts myself & don't buy myself clothes, don't have any beauty treatments or waxes myself etc....make my own washing liquid, food shop in small quantities to avoid waste, frozen food etc, rarely travel to visit friends or go out to do activities myself, don't have gym membership or expensive phone contract, I don't drink or have meals eat out.
The person who will suffer is DD as I will be stressed and worrying about money even more, I will feel I can't take her places eg. softplay or days out etc. It may even result in me not being able to pay my rent. But he hasn't discussed any of this with me or tried to reach a new agreement, he has just told me he will be reducing his payment. Also what he has quoted that the govt would make him pay if we went through CMS, doing my sums, I can tell is based only on a disclosure of his property in London that he rents out to tenants, meaning that he's calculated it by ignoring any of his other income from work - he does work part time and I know he used to get £40 an hour and more for bigger jobs. He also drives 2.5 hours each way regularly to see his long term girlfriend as she still lives in London so his outgoings that I know of already, are already more than the income that he has used to make the calculation. And it is exactly what I know he rents the property out for per month
What can I do ?