I guess I just want to let it out.

[SofaKingFedUp]

Single parent to 6 month old DD
recently took her away on a 2 weeks holiday with a friend which didn't end up being the best holiday but I shouldnt complain as I was in the sunshine
Anyway, my mum has gone on holiday the day I arrived home, she left Monday afternoon, I arrived early hours Tuesday morning. My brother picked us up from the airport and brought us home and stayed the night as it was late. He woke up with a sickness bug which he said then he had probably got from my nephew who was sick the day before. He threw up on the floor and when I brought DD down for breakfast I stood in it, not really looking at the floor tbh. So yeah I know he's ill but I was kind of mad that he didn't make it to the toilet and also didn't attempt to clean it up. Maybe I shouldn't have been mad but I was tired.

Anyway he slept the whole day then went home. Next day DD starts throwing up, can't keep anything down. took her to the doctors they said it was just a stomach bug that she probably got from my brother and she is fine just make sure she stays hydrated. She still has a bit of diarrhoea now but is almost back to normal, thankfully. I then woke up with the bug, throwing up all night, aching all over had no energy at all, could barely carry DD. had to call my brother and his girlfriend to come watch DD for a little while so I could try to sleep it off. (Brother said he was better) they came round and watched her for 2 hours for me to sleep. I was very grateful as I felt a little better for it. BUT they trashed the place... the living room looked like a bomb had hit it because they let my nephew pull everything out, fed him and got food everywhere and didn't attempt to clean up. I don't understand how they made such a mess. So yeh kinda pissed off with that.
I've gone through so much washing because of DD having diarrhoea and throwing up, changing her clothes up to 4 times a day And also my clothes and the bed sheets.
Today my youngest brother, who I am looking after while my mum is away, has now woke up with the bug and thrown up all over the bathroom. I've gone up to use the toilet and there is just sick everywhere. I don't understand how boys can't throw up in the toilet? Like why? He's 14 so it's not like he's a child. Is this a normal thing?
I can always feel when I'm about to be sick, and even if it's just the slightest feeling I sit in the bathroom just incase.
I'm just feeling overwhelmed, I've not had a decent night sleep in a don't remember how long and this past week has just made me feel like I'm not coping. I spoke to my mum yesterday and aunt flow had also arrived yesterday so I was feeling emotional and she made me feel bad, said life could be worse etc etc. I know life could be worse, I'm not saying my life is terrible. I'm saying that I'm tired and everything just had to happen while she was away.
To add to the matter, she has 2 dogs and one of them gets a little separation anxiety when she leaves (she treats him like a baby) and he has decided to do his business around the house so I also have that to clean up, no matter how many times I take him out he still does it inside. I just feel like crying. Hopefully it's just my hormones and it will pass soon. Sorry for the long rant. I just don't really have anyone else to rant too. And probably I'm over reacting.

Oh fucking hell that sounds absolutely bloody knackering! You aren’t over reacting! DS had a sickness bug overnight and I’m cranky as fuck today cos of it all, and that was just one person throwing up!
Can you have the day just snoozing/shoving stuff in the washer at all?

Ugh everyone seems to be gettin this bug! Hopefully you don't get it too @Faster and hope your DS gets better soon!
I tried the snoozing things yesterday but DD won't allow it... I've tried putting her in a travel cot with toys next to the sofa for me to snooze but she moans after 10 mins, I've tried napping with her But she only naps for about 20-30 mins (even when she was sick) so by the time I try to fall asleep she is awake. I've been trying to go to bed as early as possible at night, after I've done all the washing of bottles and dishes and clothes etc etc but it feels like it's not enough. I just feel a bit run down. My mum gets home in a week so I'm hoping after she's been home for a few days that I can ask her to take DD over night for me to sleep. I'm sure she won't mind as she won't have seen her for 4 weeks by then. It just seems so far away at the moment!

Admittedly I think it might have been my cooking why DS was throwing up 🙈 have you got a friend (who won’t trash the place) who could watch her for a couple of hours/take her out for a walk?
Make sure you’re drinking enough and getting food into you, even if it’s jusg beans on toast and shove a vitamin tablet in as well x

Sounds hard but good your mum is getting a break- your home sounds eventful and busy. And at least your brother is trying to help a bit when he doesn’t have to - he did come and get you from the airport and he did come and babysit.

Hope everyone feels better soon and you can get back to enjoying your baby.

Haha oh dear! Either way, hope his sickness isn't for long!
Not really got a friend, the ones I do have are working or live too far away unfortunately. I would ask my brother and his gf again but tbh they will just trash the place again and I can't be doing with it right now, and they can't take DD to their house as my nephew gets very jealous when his mum or dad are giving attention to another baby (he's 10 months) so she can't properly see to DD if she needed.
Thank you @Faster i am trying to eat and it's going fine, spaghetti and toast or soup seem to be the easiest option for me at the moment haha. Hopefully my brother won't be sick for long so I don't have to clean it up again. My stomach isn't as strong since I had DD

@Urbanbeetler of course, it's nice for my mum to get a break (this is her 4th holiday since june though) and I'm very grateful for my brother helping, although I did give him £ 40 petrol money for picking me up and paid for them to have a takeaway that night that they watched DD. I just felt a bit overwhelmed and with my hormones raging everything got on top of me, I just wanted to let it out and tbh I do feel a little better for it.

The bit that would annoy me the most is your brother allowing his kid to trash your place and not even attempting to tidy up afterwards. That's not helping.

Erm, my son is 4 and hasn't thrown up anywhere other than a bowl or the toilet since he was 2. Your brothers should know better!
It sounds absolutely shattering. Sickness bugs spread so fast but clearly you have been really unsupported. When me and my son get ill I personally try and steer clear of help purely to contain the bug. Doesn't mean I am not desperate for help, and it honestly is the most awful time being sick and tending to a poorly child too. Sounds like you would of handled things better on your own

Feeling your pain. I think some of the hardest, most exhausting times as a single mum have been when my daughter has had a vomiting bug. It's exhausting being up through the night with a poorly child AND having mammoth amounts of vomit- covered laundry to deal with. I confess, I have put bedding, clothes, cushions, toys etc in bin bags and just thrown it away cos I couldn't face trying to clean it all up. Two things help: 1). My friend said to me that it is a momentous day when your child has grown up enough to get to the bucket/ loo before throwing up. She's right. It's so much easier... and 2) keep old towels, curtains, anything really to use as bedding when they're ill like this - you can just bag it up and throw it away with less guilt if it does get covered. And, remember, you will get through this, they will get better.