hi,
i have dd age 6 whos dad kindly the day i told him i was pregnant told me he was married i did the right thing & called off the relationship but told him if he wanted something to do with the baby that was his right.
for the past 6yrs he has come in & out of her life very irregularly & it is now starting to affect her. she regularly asks does daddy not love me? i never slag him off to her but really dont know what to say for the best.
he has lead me to beleve that his wife is very accepting of my dd but i find that very hard to believe as im not sure i would want to accept a child born in that way.
he will not talk about his actions & regularly becomes verbally agressive [ as dds 5th bday party for no reason at all he thretened to f*ing hit me] yes admittedly i will be verbally agressive back & have alot of angry towards him about the way he has treated dd but i have never threatened violence. i dont believe he would of carried it out be the threat was still said.
he makes regular financial payments & has always been consistant in that way but he seems to think that that gives him a right to irregular involvement with dd i have told him that if he wants to walk away i will not stop him but he says this is not what he wants.
he admits his irregular contact has in the past been an attenpt to hurt me but its only hurting me cos its hurting dd.
have also recently found out he has been advertinging as bi curious on a website which the person who gave me prove of this said that maybe why hes so irregular as hes confused but i will not except that as your sexuallity should not charge you comittment to your child.
sorry to go on but what do you think i should do regarding his & dds relationship????