Self-indulgent moan

[TheOrigFV45]

In June I booked a ticket to see a lecture by someone I really wanted to see.
It was one of those things that I thought I'd be able to rope in a favour for, or ask a friend to help, to enable me to go.

Turns out I can't find anyone to mind my 9yo for a few hours so am having to sell my ticket.

I'm so torn. I have great friends and various sitters, but apart from my book club meeting every 6 weeks I only use them for things I have to do for work or for my older son.

I'm do have time to myself, it's not that - I run during the working day and I have some quiet time in the evening.

I'm just pissed off and sad and yes fucking resentful that waste of air ex (father of kids) can do what the hell he likes when he likes.

I don't my life any other way regarding my kids being with me - of course I don't - but it's OK to be disappointed...right?

Yes I do it all on my own struggling to find a babysitter available when I need them

I had to miss out on lots of things at that age too. Now ds is 13.

I missed out on a school reunion party and going to see Bowie IS exhibition so was royally pissed off twice. Plus many other occasions.

You can catch up later! Hope this helps.

www.sitters.co.uk if you are desperate but they don't do overnights so far as I know and that was what I needed at the time.

Of course it is. Is there really no one else?

With lots of friends and various sitters is there really no one that can have him for a few hours one evening? That seems odd. Have you maybe worn out your asking levels iyswim?
I used to save up asking for the big events I really didn’t want to miss and forgo the smaller stuff.

But yes it’s hard work

Hmm, OK...apologies for drip feeding but there are additional factors this time.

1. DS is quite unsettled at the moment and
2. I am on a course this week for 3 days so am having to use the childminder for longer hours and
3. I am travelling for work next week for 10 days.

So the timing was unfortunate. And yes, I do struggle with the balance of time away from DS. He doesn't care whether it's for work or pleasure - just that Mum's not there.

I have PLENTY of people I can ask but didn't want to ask a few of my usual sitters as I want DS to feel he has some control over who's minding him.

I wasn't looking for solutions, just having a moan, hopefully to other people who can empathise.

Ah ok
Sounds like it was probably best to skip it this time then and yes parenting can be tough.

What's the lecture on? Would it be entirely inappropriate to take DS with you?