Is your ex involved? What do you tell them if not?

[bumblebee39]

My kids dad was very abusive and now I'm pregnant as the result of rape by him. I am considering keeping this baby, but it's going to be hard enough explaining to my older kids their Dads absence let alone this baby. At least they had a relationship with him for a while and knew he was nasty to me. Whereas this baby may never even meet him? What do you tell your kids? DV/rape etc. Would be especially helpful, are you honest with them? And in what way at what age? Thanks xx

I left my ds’s abusive dad at 10 months. He hasn’t seen his dad since 3.

He has been given additional information as he got older. He knows he was angry and we left as I thought we would be happier . He is 11 now and knows as much as I think he ever needs to know but it has been gradual.

I think the things to consider is the risk of contact in the future . Will you be able to see baby beyond counselling . I would really encourage counselling before making a decision either way