I left dh in March and moved into a rented house with my 2 boys aged 6 and 9.
Dh is going through tax problems and may lose his business, he goes to a tribunal in July to do with this. I didn't leave because of this but lack of affection.
Anyway......Dh is on a good whack. He's already been to the US once this year and is planning 2 trips again watching sport with his friend. So if he does keep his business he's laughing.
We have shared care so he has the boys on average 3 nights a week.
He hasn't given me a regular payment since I left, just some here and there to buy shoes etc...
The CSA have been in contact. Dh apparently told them he has the boys 4 plus nights a week. I told them no it's 3 on average. They said this affects how much he has to pay which I knew. I'm worried this affects child tax but not sure?
So, this is the laugh!! I spoke to dh tonight as dss rang to talk to me, I was out but could still chat. Ended up talking to dh so I casually mentioned CSA had been in touch and did he want to pay direct to me or to them. His response........."What so I have to pay them?" I said no you can pay direct to me if you want? He said "No, I mean I have to pay money to the CSA even though I'm going through all this?" I was so shocked I was dumstruck, which to anyone who knows me will know that's unusual
I just mumbled I'll have to go and ended the call. I still can't believe he thought he could get away scott free? A friend said I'd be better getting the csa to obtain the money as he won't pay. My IS is going to be cut so I'll end up even worse off than I am.
I still can't believe he's turned into this person? But his dad and brother are sneaky with money too. Also dh tried to make out his old boss was responsible for the tax evasion but I have my doubts. I think I've had the wool pulled over my eyes for way too long.