Children meeting ex’s new partner... too soon?

[Thismaniac]

Hi... first post... just need advice! So I broke up with my partner 4 months ago and since then he’s had 2 new partners.... our latest argument is about him wanting to introduce our children to his new partner who he says he’s been seeing 6 weeks. I am adamant he must wait a few months before introducing them. He only sees them for a few hours every few weeks (he’s seen them 4 times at the most in the last 4 months) and I think this should be quality time with our children rather than with a partner. AIBU? Do I have a leg to stand on legally?

I don’t think you do however I completely agree with you. Surely he can find a few hours a week to see children and build relationship separately

My OH waited 6 months to introduce me to his kids - which I respected as he didn’t want to be introducing randoms to his kids.

You don’t have any say in it. Just like you can introduce the kids to who you see fit.

Thanks... I thought as much. I have started seeing someone myself and even though I have the children 95% of the week I would not introduce them to him until at least a few months in. So it’s not even a case of double standards.

Six months to a year before he should even think of introducing a new partner (especially as he has had one already that went south).

But have I or can I get any legality in enforcing this?

"But have I or can I get any legality in enforcing this?"

No. He can introduce whoever he likes during his ti. I agree with you, it stinks. But there isn't anything you can do about it.

I'd go with 6 months to a year. Saying that I introduced an ex to my dd after a year of dating and the moment I saw him try to integrate with my littlest one I knew it was all over!

Would you think about meeting her first before the kids do?

www.google.com.au/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/nurturing-resilience/201508/when-parents-date-someone-new-whats-best-the-kids%3famp