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Pre school

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Whoknows11 · 02/10/2018 19:31

My ex pays nothing for our 3 year oldvto attend nursery/pre school and never has.

He wants an online log in so he he can access the pre school’s development page to see how our son is doing and also wants to go and chat with them regarding his progress?

What are people’s thoughts on this?

With him there is always a hidden agenda!

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sanityisamyth · 02/10/2018 19:36

My ExH has never contributed to childcare costs and is not helping with school fees now that our DS is now 4 and started reception (same school he went to nursery at).

Because he's on the birth certificate he's legally entitled to school reports and invites to parents' evenings etc. Drives me mad as he pays me the bare minimum in maintenance and doesn't contribute to his education in any shape or form, but school have to inform him of his progress.

SiempreDot · 02/10/2018 20:27

I know exactly how you feel. Several months ago my ex decided he'd stop contributing to DS childcare, leaving me to pay the 450 fees per month alone - far more than his maintenance is calculated at. And yet still has the temerity to demand his termly reviews are sent to him.

RandomMess · 02/10/2018 20:32

Guess he just needs to ask pre school for it. I wouldn't give it to him and I'd tell the provider you don't want a shared log in.

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Whoknows11 · 02/10/2018 22:32

Thanks for your comments!

I’ll speak to the pre school tomorrow and say that any meetings about our son are to happen together with me there and with regards to the online reporting app, I’ll ask he doesn’t get it as he doesn’t pay!

The lack of respect towards me gets my goat! He never asks me about his development and I see him 3 x a week!!

Again sadly it’s a control thing! Wish he’d just leave me alone and run away into the sunset with his ow and their toddler!!

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SiempreDot · 02/10/2018 23:07

Is it a pre school like attached to an infants school? Or a private day nursery?

If it's a private nursery where you have a contract, the nursery have an obligation to not share information that's not with the person that signed the contract. According to my solicitor anyway. He'd be reliant on you to disclose it. I think it might be different if it's an infant school nursery, as in maintained.

Hope that helps

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Whoknows11 · 03/10/2018 06:30

It’s a private nursery/pre school.

Thank you x

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