How to explain to a 6 year old their dad dont want to know them

[MissSamantha]

So basically i got pregnant when i was 19 an had my daughter when i was 20, im now 27 nearly, the day i got pregnant her father decided he would attack me an want nothing to do with the child. My relationship with him was not good he was abuisve physically an mentally. My pregnancy was not planned i was on the pill, i got with him when i was 15 nearly 16 an it ended the day i found out i was pregnant. Now my daughter is 6 she is very confused why her friends all have mummy an daddy an she only has her mummy. She has started asking questions on why he dont see her an saying that he dont love her! His wished her dead an also said he wants nothing to do with her... i dont want to tell her about him beating me up an all that, so how can i explain why his not around? How can i say to her that he doesnt want to know her? I feel like such a failure as mother! She is a very emtional child right now, shes also been reffered to camhs! I just need a bit of help on what i can say to her.

Please no judging me i all ready feel low an like ive faild.

I wouldn't tell her he doesn't want to see her, she's too young to understand. I used to say to my little girl that mummy and daddy had an argument, and that all adults argue sometimes. And that now meant that daddy was away. She never really asked where away was. She's 9 now and fully understands the situation, but at your daughters age she wouldn't have processed it. You're most certainly not a failure, and when she's old enough to understand she will make her own mind up whether to reach out to him.

My Ds didn’t see his dad from 3

Some easy answers ... he has never met you so doesn’t know you . You are loved by me & ..........

All families are different.... we talked about children in care, adopted,parents who are in the forces.

I told my Ds we left as you thought we would be happier on our own . I didn’t tell him we left to go to a refuge.

It is also ok to say I don’t know . As she gets older she may ask more questions. So tell an age appropriate but bear in mind she may ask more as she gets older

Thank you guys its so hard cause shes only 6 so she dont really understand. Im just going to bear all your comments in mind. Sometimes i feel so low an all though it aint my fault at time i feel like i fail at being a mother... but when shes old enough to actually underatand ill be able to tell her