Could someone please explain to exp he cant come this weekend!!??

[tammybear]

I am getting so annoyed. He just doesnt seem to listen!! I feel like knocking his head against the wall!!!!! I know Im just wasting my breath having to keep repeating myself to him that I dont want him to come this weekend, so Ive given up and just blocked him off msn and if he rings, Im going to ignore him. He thinks Im doing it all in spite which really p*es me off. I told him not to bother coming as noone will answer the door for him. Its a pity my mum cant stay somewhere else with dd as it'll be so much easier. Sorry just wanted to have a rant as he really does my head in (lol Im sure you're all sick of hearing me complaining about him by now!)

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she's sticking up for me thankfully. she's going to go out with dd both days if the weather hopefully picks up. if not, then she wont answer the door if he turns up. plus she's been getting my brothers to answer the phone, as exp's mum rang the other day and my bros just told her my mum werent in. so thats the plan. plus my mum said if she did end up speaking to them, then she'd just tell them she's sticking with my decision and not going against it

Sounds sorted Tammybear. Try not to let it wind you up too much (easier said than done!)

im trying meanbean, but he has such a weird mind. hes obsessed with war and armies etc, and now thinks of this as a war between me and him, and that he's not going to stop until he wins. but the thing is he doesnt seem to understand that if he just said okay then we wont come this weekend, do you mind if we come the weekend after you come back, then Id turn around and say yeah that should be okay, let me just check Im not doing anything. Is that to hard to understand? I can tell his mum or dad are going to phone me up this evening and have a go at me, but Ive already wrote out a list of reasons to why Im right and they're wrong. Now he's on about taking me to court and blah blah blah but the fact of the matter is he cant afford to plus I doubt he would as Im sure he knows he is in the wrong, just doesnt want to admit it so keeps going on about it hoping Ill turn around saying yeah okay Ive changed my mind, why dont you come! Plus I feel a lot better once Ive had a moan on here

sorry you're still having loads of hassle from him, you should be looking forward to your weekend away. Why don't you call him and suggest another time that would suit you, that way you know you have tried everything to solve the problem. good that your mum is supporting you now, at least thats one less thing to worry about!

I think you just have to think of him as a condition to be managed, like eczema. He can be extremely irritating, sometimes to the point of real pain, and flares up just at the most inconvenient moments, but if managed correctly can be kept under control, though sometimes needs more drastic treatment than at others!

lol, thats a really good way to think about it meanbean. well i was just talking to parentline plus about it (you know what Im like lol) and she was saying it sounds like he's bluffing and that he's just trying to ruin my holiday as he cant get his own way (which is typical of exp) so Im now at peace of mind, as I really dont think he'll come. I think he's just trying to s**t me up so Ill turn around and say oh come on then you can come! but now I really dont care what he says to me, and Im really looking forward to my holiday to get away from that headache!!

Aww tammy bear... ignore your exp and have a great holiday, sounds like everything is sorted at home. ENJOY THE BREAK!! lol