Long, sorry. Had dinner last night with a married friend, who really has my best interests at heart, but instead of a nice evening out, it made me very sad. First she said we should meet in the bar of the restaurant, but then said she would be late, and I might meet someone nice in the bar, as it was a classy restaurant! The waiting area had sofas, and only two middle aged men having a chat, unsurprisingly, so I read the cigar menu carefully until she came. She seemed disappointed that I was alone. Then during dinner, the conversation came round to why I was still single, and she said all the wrong things and I was about to cry. I met several interesting men this year through going out more, taking classes, doing sports, and so on, and managed to chat with them, and get email addresses, and invite them here and there, however, nothing more has happened. All these men work full-time as professionals, all have been friendly and polite to me, all are too busy and serious types that don't fool around much (if at all), and none have had a direct sexual signal from me, so if they don't pursue me, I try not to take it as an indicator that they dislike me, and try to think that their friendly behaviour, eg saying they would like to see me again, emailing me, indicates some generally friendly reaction. She said, meaning well, that if a man does not chase after you, then he just does not fancy you, full stop. I know that this is not the case, from previous relationships, because many men are shy or busy or forgetful or not looking for a girlfriend, but I felt really upset by her assuming that no one ever fancies me, and they just all say they would like to see me again from politeness. It made me feel like I was Miss Piggy towards Kermit. Then this morning she sent me an email saying I should go on a TV show where they are looking for dates for busy single parents. I would be totally humiliated to have my private life ventilated on TV, and I would be a laughing stock with my professional clients, however, I felt obliged to ring the producer for a chat, just so that I could report back to my friend, and she would not accuse me of not trying hard enough. Then, this afternoon, she has sent me a message saying that two of her work colleagues recommended two internet dating sites! I went and had a look, and just can't face it. It seems really crude, eg you have to score yourself on physical attraction and place a photo and I could not bear to go further. I deal with people all the time at work, and I have lots of friends, so I hope I am not totally clueless about people, but her advice, that men whom I think are interested in me, and are friendly and give a 'look' to me, are just not interested, has really upset me. I also mentioned to her that I have been trying out a few new yoga classes while ds is at his grandparents, and she was dismissive, saying that I would never meet a man at something like that. I don't want my whole life to revolve around trying to meet a boyfriend, rather than my own interests and life and ds.