Some advice on parental responsibilities please

[zmandaz]

Hi, I'm the mum of a 9month old DD. I left my ex-husband when I was 3 months pg. We are now divorced. He has been really abusive all the way through my pg and the divorce and insisted on having a DNA test at his expense even though he knew the baby was his. He has now said that he is applying to the courts to have his parental responsibilities removed as he wants nothing to do with DD. Does anyone know if he can actually do this or has anyone had a similar experience? If they don't let him have them removed how does the parental responsibiliy thing work as he lives over 3 hours away and I'm pretty sure he would just argue against all the decisions I make for the sake of it. I'd be really grateful for any advice.

Ive never heard of someone asking a court to have their own PR removed Surely it would be easier to just not have contact with you and dd for two years and then you can ask that he loses his PR.
What is wrong with this man?
I wish my ex would give up his PR he is a prat too!

not sure, but even if he has no PR he still has to pay maintenance

I don't understand why he's doing it either. I think he's just doing whatever he can to hurt me. I don't have any direct contact with him so I guess I'll just have to wait and see what he does next. As for maintenance, he's said he'll sell his house and quit his job so he doesn't have to pay. He's a real charmer, I can't believe I was stupid enough to marry him!!!!

icp.brookes.ac.uk/Legal/Legal32Parental_Responsibilit y_00000573.htm

well even on benefits the CSA have the power to take money off him, did you any money towards dd via the divorce settlement?

opps try that again

Nope sorry i cant get it to work. God im crap with computers

I'm pretty sure he can't just opt out of parental responsibility because he doesn't feel like it any more! He's had a DNA test, he's proved he is the biological father...I'm afraid the only way he can opt out is if he manages to engineer your marriage to an extremely handsome and rich man that treats you like a princess and adores your DD so much that he wants to adopt her.

guys a tosser. let him waste his money on a lot of lawyers. just because he has parental responsibility doesn't mean he can tell you what to do.

Thanks for the messages.
We weren't married very long so I haven't got much of a settlement and nothing specifically for DD, it's been put down as going towards housing and my re-training for a new job. Unfortunately he decided some time ago that he didn't need a lawyer and has been getting snippets of info off the internet! He even tried quoting the law to the Judge in court which didn't go down well!
He really doesn't have a clue what he's doing and is just digging a deeper hole all the time.

I like the extremeley handsome, rich man bit persephonesnape, wish there were some round here