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Can't believe I have now been separated a whole year!!

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Pinkchampagne · 09/06/2007 19:12

This time last year I made the decision to end my marriage, although I had no idea at the time that it would be pretty much a year later before we would be in separate houses!

Can't believe it has been a whole year now! How time flies when you're not having fun!!!

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jellyjelly · 09/06/2007 21:57

only about 6 weeks but it has annoyed me. x scarred me to much.

its a good book to read. You reminded me about it because it says you will feel better if you move stuff around if only on a tilt so its yours.

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Pinkchampagne · 09/06/2007 22:02

This is the only house I have lived in & felt it was mine! I always thought of the houses we owned together as H's houses, so I have enjoyed buying my own bits to put in here & having things just how I want them!

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jellyjelly · 09/06/2007 22:04

i got so much for my house but then he did want to take everything but at least i know it is mine and wont be taken. It may be broken by ds but thats ok.

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Pinkchampagne · 09/06/2007 22:05

How long have you been in the house without him?

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fransmom · 09/06/2007 22:09

hello both! (((((((((((((((((pc and jj))))))))))))))

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Pinkchampagne · 09/06/2007 22:10

Hi FM.

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fransmom · 09/06/2007 22:13

gawd i didn't realise it was a year. well done to you for getting thru it. (and jj for fri) for you both

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Pinkchampagne · 09/06/2007 22:16

Yes it was the 8th June last year that we had the talk, so last night was the official anniversary, but it was in the garden today that the date suddenly hit me!

We were separated yet still living together for 11 long months!

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fransmom · 09/06/2007 22:19

crikey. well my darling you have done very well and even tho it may not feel like it at times (and this goes for you jj as well), a few years from now you will look back and think my god (or other personage ) i am glad i did that

you are both lovely ladies an di wish i lived closer to you so that i could help you both (so please don't say that you live at opposite ends of the country )

jellyjelly · 09/06/2007 22:20

thankyou it be such a long time since i had flowers.

He moved out straight away. found out on the friday and he went on saturday morning and didnt come back. I still have the garden furniture and stuff in the shed which needs collecting and stuff in the attic which he needs to move but i dont see his poo everywhere now.

He still manages to make me feel inferior that i cant spend £10 on a fliping chicken.

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Pinkchampagne · 09/06/2007 22:21

Where do you live, FM?

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jellyjelly · 09/06/2007 22:22

where are you pink?

fransmom · 09/06/2007 22:23

i think i remember you saying about the garden shed stuff on another thread maybe?

could you send him a letter, telling him that timne is of the essence or you will sell it as possession is (allegedly) 9/10ths of the law. tho i should see citizens advice bureau if you can and they will give you the firmer legal standpoint

fransmom · 09/06/2007 22:23

somerset ish

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Pinkchampagne · 09/06/2007 22:24

You are lucky that he moved out quickly. My ex refused to budge until we completed on our house sale, which proved pretty stressful!

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jellyjelly · 09/06/2007 22:24

yeah i pay the mortgage so it must be mine or i might charge him storage.

jellyjelly · 09/06/2007 22:24

i slung his bottom out and changed the locks!!!!

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Pinkchampagne · 09/06/2007 22:25

You're miles away from me, FM, I'm in Kent!

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fransmom · 09/06/2007 22:28

lol will have to rely on interent connections then

jelly, you know that's a good idea - storage costs. if you know his new address, you could send the stuff into storage, then put his addy on the invoice! nasty

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Pinkchampagne · 09/06/2007 22:29

I still have a few of H's bits & bobs in a box here, but I'm hoping he will take them when he has his house

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fransmom · 09/06/2007 22:29

if you want to get rid of them, could you leave them outside your parents house in dead of nite so they there in themorning?>

jellyjelly · 09/06/2007 22:30

goodnight, take care pink and treat yourself with whatever you fancy to make you feel better.

Blu · 09/06/2007 22:31

Have you still got that nice man's mobile no, PC?

fransmom · 09/06/2007 22:32

how about him to clean your house?

when dc not there obv

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Pinkchampagne · 09/06/2007 22:33

It's only one box, so it isn't bothering me too greatly. I expect he will take them when he moves into his house. I will dispose of them if he doesn't!

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