Unmarried... And custody

[Autumn29]

Hi I am looking for some advice, I have two dc and am looking for some advice on how custody will be sorted if I seperate from their dad. We are unmarried and my dd is suspected of having sen needs. Would he get 50% custody as i know he will try for this as he will miss them and wsnt to pay less cm and claim some of the cb. I am just concerned they will be passed back and fourth every few days and it won't be good for them as they're still young. How did it work out for u? What will the courts most likely do?

Courts don't automatically insist on 50-50 if they don't think it's the best thing for the child.

There are a lot of factors to consider.

For instance, who has been the children's main carer? Does one parent work full-time? If that's the case, then the full time working parent is less likely to get 50-50 especially when the children are very small still.

Do you think there's a chance you might split?

He works full time but has threatened in the passed to leave in order to get the most custody possible. I am the main carer but dd is now at school. I think it is going to have to happen.

What's going to have to happen? That you split or that custody would be 50-50?

If he left, that would NOT mean he got the most custody possible at all. He's just trying to scare you OP.

Ok....I just had a quick look at some of your other posts OP and he's a bloody bastard.

He's emotionally abusive.

I suggest that you immediately call Women's Aid. They can advise you on the best way to get away from him with your child and safely.

Do you rent or own?

Record EVERY text that's abusive. And if he threatens you physically, call the police.

His family member got divorced he knows to never put anything nasty in writing anymore. I am just concerned about how to go about leaving. Finding a housing solution seems impossible. We have a joint mortgage.

Why are you against 50-50 custody?

I'm not against it I'm just concerned it's not the best, my dd has sen needs and I'm worried the bk and fourth every free days will impact her, I don't want the kids passed from pillar to post because I decided to leave. Also my partner works and I know he will go for 50% custody in order to pay less and he will just get his mother to look after them. I just want them to have a real home and feel wanted. X