Living alone!

[B00kworm86]

Hello,

I split up with my EA exH in March and have finally managed to find a lovely flat for myself and my DS (4)!

We've lived with my parents since the split after my exH kicked us out, because I wasn't willing to put up with him sticking his genitals in other women!

I am looking forward to having my own place with my lovely DS but I'm also feeling really apprehensive!

Please could some of you lovely people tell me some great things about living alone?

Thank you

You make all the decisions, you control the tv, hardly no mess and can eat chocolate whenever you want lol. I love the freedom and having no one to answer too.

Not picking up after a man, eating what I like when I want, no bickering, making a star shape in bed because it’s all mine now, soaking in the bath because there is no longer an urgency to vacate because of his bowel habits and watching what I want on TV

You need one of these to make it a home...

I am in a v similar situation to you. EA ex, would come home drunk, after work and being in the pub with various women, together 15 years.
Have a 4yo little boy. I LOVE the peace, lack of atmosphere, not cleaning another's mess, being organised, more confident, all round much happier and a lot less stressed. My anxiety has disappeared. Am slowly rediscovering me again. I see more of my friends. I couldn't be happier. Enjoy!

Its fine. I lived alone since 16..

You are in charge, your home, you make the rules.
I've lived with just Dd for 17 years now and will never live with another adult again.

Oh, I do have four cats though, but they can't work the TV remote so it's ok

Brillo but don't dcats have poseable thumbs??

Thanks so much for your replies everyone! I'm definitely going to consider the kitty possibilities! My DM has a cat, and I'm really going to miss her when I've moved out!

Get four two kittens cats.

Breaking free from this type of relationshop gives you the freedon to totally be yourself again and rediscover new things about yourself.

Living alone gives you the safe secure place to do this that is all yours.

Make it a real home. Rediscover hobbies. Account to no one.

You will love it

*notquite Thats so true! I really like the person I've become over the last few months! I'm not anxious all the time, I have control over my own money and I've been able to decorate to my own taste, without someone telling me that my ideas are shit! I always wanted a duck egg blue colour in my kitchen, but I wasn't allowed... I now have duck egg blue in my new kitchen, and it's beautiful!

@B00kworm86 sounds lovely. Funny isnt it the things we get satisfaction out of basicly saying fuck you.

Sounds like youve got this. Youll be fine

I lived alone before meeting my current partner and what previous posters have put is correct, you only clean up your own mess, you are only answerable to yourself and no having to put up with a man snoring!

Also cats are awesome!

There are other things you can do!

• join clubs, explore doing hobbies and meet new people!

That’s what I did and it’s a great outlet and is a great way to make friends :-)