Dating as a single parent & having harm OCD.

[Rbkh]

Me abs my ex split up recently but to be honest our relationship had been dead for some time. I’m obviously in no rush to find someone yet but I was just sat here thinking that eventually I’d like to meet someone.
This is a bit of a deep subject but I suffer from ocd, my focuses on harm thoughts and I’m always worried someone is going to harm my little one, at one point I was even convinced her dad was going to! Now all I’m worrying about is if I did meet someone what if they were a bad person who could potentially hurt her. It’s also difficult because I can never tell if it’s gut instinct or my OCD making me believe it.

Obviously my daughter will always come first and like I said the dating scene is just isn’t for me at the moment but I’d like to find someone eventuallybut my OCD is always ruining a lot for me.

Does anyone else suffer from this type of ocd and how have you gone about dating etc? X

Hi Rbkh. I'm sorry to hear of your situation. I can relate in a mild way, I'm certainly not OCD but I think most single parents have the same concerns when thinking of, or beginning to,date again. We always want best for our kids, and always worry they may be hurt by our own actions. If it's true OCD (as opposed to a genuine fear from history, or natural paranoia), I suggest talking to your gp who can refer you to a specialist to help you deal with this. However that works out, I also suggest taking anything slowly, and only introduce the kids to your 'friend' before introducing a 'boyfriend'. If a bloke can't handle that, he isn't the one for you. The right one will wait, earn your trust, and understand your issues. Corny I know, but true