Double standards re 'me time'

[HugeAckmansWife]

All the time on MN there are threads from married /co-habiting people complaining that their (usually male) spouse is having hours of hobby / pub / gym time and is it fair. The responses are overwhelmingly similar and say each parent should equal time 'off'. But on threads where a single parent dares suggest they are pissed off that the NRP is dicking about, reducing contact, that they can't form new relationships because they can only have one date a fortnight due to EOW they get told they are horrible people for wanting 'me time' and that the kids come first. Why is it different?

because single mothers are feckless drains on society and deserve to be punished for daring to try and raise a child alone? That's pretty much how I get treated because of being one.

The thread about married vs cohabiting families has been an eye opener to me. There's some unpleasant thinking on mumsnet.

Because society values mens needs whereas women are skivvies whose parenting value is determined by their martyrdom.

@blublub your reply made me 🤣

blublub i think i feel like this sometimes- like everyone must think I just bleed the state dry of benefits. (Not just me single handedly, obvs!) And so I have put off applying for tax credits etc because of it- I am so bloody hell bent on proving I can do it without help that I've never bothered. I've only just realised that it's because I'm judging myself. Off to get the application form ordered for the fourth time....will actually compete it this time perhaps!