Awake because of ex

[HowamIgoingtocope]

At present the ex and I are disputing schools for my child. A long with a 4 page email off him. In now wide awake.worrying Im a shit mum and crying my heart out. I've been separated an age and divorced the same. Yet all the problems are my fault.

Sorry im just feeling a failure and my dog has been sleeping on my pillow so it stinks.

They are not all your fault ... your ex needs to talk reasonably and without that just don't contact unless necessary explain you will only discuss things via email and only respectful emails!
You have got this you are raising your child don't ever feel you are failing sometimes as lone parents it is just a little harder to get through difficult life choices with an argumentative ex

Stay strong x

Thankyou puppy I feel like nothing at the moment is post his email but im scared he will be watching. Im fed up of this I have two kids who love him dearly and I have never ever put him down to them

What’s his issue with the school

Are your children happy? If they’re doing ok then tell him to take a run & jump.

He doesn't want him to go to a specific school I think that suits our ds at present. This may change.
He's taken control by registering my boy on he portal . I was going to do his when I met with him to agree schools.
He pulls the parental responsibility strings when he can control something and is manipulating our d's at the moment. .
But of course non of it is his fault at all.

Op, you also have parental responsibility, you are equals and have the same rights. He doesn’t get to decided. You can change the registration, call the local education authority & explain the problem.

Who will be doing the majority of drop-offs and pickups? School logistics have to work for the family so if he wants a school that would mean you couldn’t get to work on time, then he needs to compromise. If it is a particular religion school, then you can register your child elsewhere.
Either way, the fact that you clearly care very much about your son’s education makes you a good mum, not a bad one. You ex is a controlling arsehole. Co-parenting should be just that- decided co-operatively.

There's no co parenting. It's usually him trying to bully me into agreeing something. Its no womder imnstill single 7 years down the line. Ive never stopped him seing the kids . Ive offered him more contact. But apparwntly thw children dont see me enough as i work. So i have them every other weekend. Its funny how he hasnt been around for 8 years yet knows whats best for hi kods.