Advice/direction needed. Husband left me and our 8 month old

[Sweetooth92]

Husband has packed his bags and gone this morning. We’ve been struggling the last month or so since I returned to work full time and snapping at one another as we are both exhausted but instead of trying to work on things he has just called it a day. Where on earth do I start?

Im sorry to hear whats happened.

Has he been distant lately? Do you think someone else is involved?

Can you work around the childcare hours and do pick up without DH? I know I sound incredibily harsh, but I honestly would just ignore him & let him get on with it.

I don’t think anyone else is involved, he left his ex wife when his daughter was young so may be a pattern to it. Who knows.
I’m really lucky to work flexi time so can work my hours around nursery & in evenings when my son is in bed it’s more the realities of how on earth I can finance living costs and nursery fees on my own and sourcing accommodation. Whilst I am still in the house this evening it is still owned by his parents as it wasn’t mortgageable when we brought it as needed major works (literally was due to change over at land registry in the next few weeks to our name) so slightly concerned we will also be left homeless too. I’m aghast to be totally honest and still fairly shocked, while I haven’t been perfect and do bottle things up and then say what I’ve built up I don’t believe it’s been grounds to leave without any attempt to resolve-especially as a lot of my stress and frustration is caused by him, doesn’t pick up after himself, never cooks (literally never, think he’s cooked once in 7 years) and so on. He dropped past to collect some bits earlier and didn’t even say goodbye or touch our son who was a couple of feet away. Absolutely heartbreaking he couldn’t understand what was happening when he left