Applying for secondary place for son.

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The time has come to apply for a secondary school place for my son . I've been dreading this . I knew It would be a problem. Then the ex went one better than usual and registered our son on the portal you need to be registered on. He then sent me a an email telling me he had done so.
Im livid. The kids live with me . This o one step too far and im now fuming and need advise. I know he is entitled to do this. But he kids live with me. Am I being unreasonable.

Has he registered your (joint) child at a school you don't want him to go to. ?

Legally this is one of those decisions that ALL those with PR have equal say. Regardless of who lives where. With all these things there there is a requirement to be 'reasonable ' and to put your child's needs first.

I am believe me you don't know my ex. This is not him being reasonable this is him resorting back to his own ways and inadvertently stating hahah I have control now.. our children at unaware of how their father is with me.
Oh I know he has parental responsibility. Believe me he's too me enough times.
I've never denies him anything.

And no he hasn't registered him anywhere. Just onto a portal for the choices.

Has he put any schools down? Registering is something that had to be done anyway but is he likely to interfere with the school that you want? I do get it, my ex is an absolute twat who only gets involved on a whim. I'd be irritated beyond belief if he suddenly decided to do this and try and take over the process. Is he doing that?

Are you likely to agree on schools or will he nitpick about that? If you're broadly in agreement I would just log on and fill out the list and ignore him.

No not in agreement and probably won't be hes already threatening mediation. Even to a point hes put schools on his list closer to him . He's already tries to cohersed our son to his choices and not let him make his own mind up with our guidance poor kid came home torn at weekend

If I've read your post correctly you are the resident parent. If i remember correctly, you can only use the address where the children live most of the time to as the application address. Once the place has been allocated the schools check on behalf of the local authority. (I had to produce all sorts of evidence both for myself and my son to prove he lived at the same address - his card etc Even for a school with no catchment area.)

I think you need to tell him that because that will impact the schools you are able to apply for.

Nhs card!

Contact your local authority for advice about this. I am sure I have heard of people putting restrictions for such instances in the application whereby it will be disregarded if not from the primary career (am in Scotland though so might be different where you are).

Contact your admissions dept at your local council. The application should come from where the child is registered as living by the parent who receives child benefit if applicable and who pays council tax at that address. If your child's address is that which is held by his current school the admissions team will be able to check this as well. Explain the situation. They'll tell you to register yourself on the portal.

Yes im on this today .my boy chowing a school should not be stressful .

I've had his reply everything Is my fault. He is once again being passive aggressive regarding the childrens current address.

He can be as passive aggressive as he likes. Those are the rules about school admissions. The application comes from the child's main address.

I will be emailing the council this week explaining the situation they can then new the decision. Not me.

Well that was horrendous. I've just received another essay from him . Now he's solely responsible for our children's academic ability. Yes of course. Im thick. I forgot that.