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Single mum of 2.. will I cope ?

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Sideofthelake · 04/09/2018 09:18

So I’m 8 weeks off meeting my baby.
I have 3 year old from a previous relationship he is 4 in November.

New baby’s dad walked out a month ago, doesn’t want to work things out. Has come completely as a shock to me and I am heartbroken.
Now I’m worried how on earth will I cope with my son and the baby? Alone ?
I have no family, I have friends who I think might help but again I have no idea.
Also I’m having a planned section to make things even more worrying! So I’ve asked my sons dad to have him for a week when I go in

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Creeper8 · 04/09/2018 12:17

Yeh you will. You just have to when you have no choice fwiw, Im a single mum to 4, I gave birth alone via csection, I was in hospital alone. I fell out with my family when my baby was 5 weeks old and havent spoken to them since and now my baby is 16 months so ive done it all alone with 4. Ex is absent through choice. Im not going to say its been easy but you get by.

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Sideofthelake · 04/09/2018 12:18

You sound like super woman! How did you find your c section recovery?

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Timeisslippingaway · 04/09/2018 12:18

My friend just went through this her baby is now 6 moths and she is doing great. Good luck! You will be fine.

Creeper8 · 04/09/2018 12:24

Ive always found the csection not too difficult tbh but can only speak for myself. I was bumping a double buggy up 6 flights of stairs immediately after my csection. (lived in a top floor flat) that was my first after my first emcs, this was my second which I was told would be much worse but it was fine. Can you send your 3 yr old to nursery if they arent in one already? Then they will be starting school so will get easier.

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Sideofthelake · 04/09/2018 12:35

Yes he goes to nursery now ! I work mon-thurs so he goes to nursery those days. I’ve changed it so that from now he just goes term time only as from October half term I’ll be on mat leave and same applies for Christmas etc.
Think my concern was getting him to nursery etc, I did recovery quite well from my section with him but I can’t remenber time frames etc

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Nicelunch25 · 05/09/2018 08:48

Where are you roughly? Is homestart an option? I recovered ok with my section and I had an abusive husband kicking me/hauling me out of bed/ generally making things more difficult so I think it would have been easier on my own but in terms of getting home from the hospital etc you'll need a plan (taxi?)

Nicelunch25 · 05/09/2018 08:48

Where are you roughly? Is homestart an option? I recovered ok with my section and I had an abusive husband kicking me/hauling me out of bed/ generally making things more difficult so I think it would have been easier on my own but in terms of getting home from the hospital etc you'll need a plan (taxi?)

Congratulations on your baby and sorry his dad is being such a shit.

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