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Gutted for my children

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Louw12345 · 30/08/2018 20:58

Now i have had time to calm down I need to know if I said this out of anger.

Weekend at their dad's and extra day for only bank holiday he's had out of the year. It didn't last long got a text Saturday morning at 4am sayin mum pick us up tomorrow. I asked why are you awake and why. It's kicking off in the reply.
I asked how the others are and was told they was crying.

I went for the children and give him and his partner a piece of my mind. Iv told him he has to go to court now. But honstly I know I won't take it to court I will more than likely stop the over nights for awhile.
This is the 3rd or 4ty time the kids have mentioned arguments.

Last time I posted I was told I can't tell him what to do ie not drink when he has the kids but surely I have a right this time ?

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Louw12345 · 30/08/2018 21:00

Mine fitted for the kids as now they won't be able to stay over as they live their dad but I get have them seeing or hearing that. I don't want them to think it's normal to be drinking and arguing

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SilkeOvesen · 30/08/2018 21:01

Sorry, I’m a bit confused- the kids were awake because there was a big fight going on? And you went and picked them up?

Sounds awful Flowers

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Louw12345 · 30/08/2018 21:36

Yeah sorry I'm really tired.
It kicked off and woke them up. Their friend kick off then they kicked off with each other. When dad realised kids heard it all he was crying in front of them to.

They have all struggled with sleep since being home to

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Starlight345 · 30/08/2018 23:47

Sounds like an unstable situation . What ages are the children what do they want ?

colditz · 30/08/2018 23:55

Tell them the kids that their dad can take them out for fun day trips and then they can come home to their own bed and a sober mum instead of horrible drunk out of control dad.

best of both worllds (for them. More work for you but that's how it is)

Seniorschoolmum · 31/08/2018 15:55

You can’t stop him drinking but you can refuse to let him have them overnight. You don’t need to take him to court for that, he needs to take you to court if he doesn’t like. And when you go to court, you can explain about the drinking and the arguments and the frightened children.
At the very least it would get it documented so if it happened again, your ex would know he was in breach and you would be allowed to insist on supervised access.
Hard work for you but much better for your dcs. BrewCake

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Louw12345 · 02/09/2018 22:54

They are between 7 and 15. He didn't wish to see one on their bday this weekend so I'm gonna leave it now till he is ready to accept it isn't an environment for the children to be in.
I can't stop him drinking or having his mates round but like you said they can come home for the night. Only thing is when I said that into him he told me I can't tell him what to do. Mean I g he will keep the kids if he wants.

Kids are back at school next week and they both have teachers they confined in. Both teachers have spoke with me about a number things they believe to be concerning therefore it gos in a book. Once this book has so many things in it's reported to social services.
I have nothing to hide however I do believe this will be even more stressful for the children in the long run

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