EXPs THREATENING TO COME - URGENT ADVICE NEEDED

[tammybear]

Exp says hes coming no matter what next weekend when Im away. Mum's going to be out those two days, but he says he'll come no matter what. Im going to get legal advice next week, but what can I do? I know we can call the police if need be, but I dont really want to go down that road.

Think you'll need to get a restraining order, or whatever they call it now - stopping him from coming within a certain distance of your house/kids whatever - you solicitor should be able to sort you out.

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change the locks, is your mum having your daughter? It might pay to make the police aware, so that your mum has a direct dial number if he tries anything on
what are your main concerns about him tammy?

we're arguing at the moment, and his mums just rang me, didnt answer. Im not here and Id be more comfortable with me being there. he doesnt seem to understand that

oh and yeah mums having dd whilst im away

plus HV has said when exp sees dd it should be supervised and Id rather be there so I know what goes on

Why is he wanting to visit? is it to see dd, or what? could your mum and dd stay elsewhere for the weekend? Do you have formal access arrangements?

he wants to see dd. im not against that, but i dont want him to come if im not there. simple enough but he doesnt understand that. we arranged the contact ourselves but he hasnt seen her in 8 weeks. he thinks im doing it in spite and says hes going to take me to court. i told him if he comes i can call the police as ive told him not to. i dont want to go away now. im so upset im shaking and crying

is there anyone i can call now to get proper legal advice from? i cant wait til next week to find out. and would solicitors give advice over the phone? mines on holiday til tuesday.

Tammybear, the two helplines I know of are closed now until Monday morning. They are One Parent Families: 0800 018 5026 and Gingerbread:
0800 018 4318. Sorry you've got this hanging over you for the weekend. But don't be intimidated by this man. You or your mother do not have to see him on his terms. He doesn't control you, her or your DD, however much he wants to.