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Ex won't make regular contact.

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Sab5 · 27/08/2018 16:52

I broke up with my ex a year ago. We have five children together. He refuses to arrange regular contact. He will just contact my daughter and say I'm coming for you tomorrow. Has anybody else been in this situation? How do I proceed with court? Thanks

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Sab5 · 27/08/2018 16:53

I broke up with my ex a year ago. We have five children together. He refuses to arrange regular contact. He will just contact my daughter and say I'm coming for you tomorrow. Has anybody else been in this situation? How do I proceed with court? Thanks

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movewiththetimes · 27/08/2018 19:56

Mines the same, let's me know a couple of days before if he's having them for an afternoon! Usually every 6 weeks. Refuses to make anything regular because he's playing the victim!

Unfortunately unless he wants to make formal arrangements to see them on a regular basis, there's nothing you can do. The rational is, if a non resident parent doesn't want more contact they shouldn't be forced as it's detrimental to the children. Not sure where that leaves the resident parent with regards to not having a choice or a break and the impact that may have on the children.

I've been to a couple of solicitors who think the law is completely ridiculous but the upshot is, there's nothing you can do except speak to him.

Sorry this isn't great news. Thankfully us single parents are made of tough stuff xx

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Sab5 · 27/08/2018 20:40

It's just ridiculous honestly. I know that he is also playing the victim and is trying to stop me having free time or to make plans. Thank you for replying xx

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Starlight345 · 28/08/2018 13:08

How old is dd?

Does he work regular hours or shi fts ?

I would tell him children will be available .... let me know at least 48 hours in advance if you are taking children otherwise we will make other plans.

You are entitled to a life and if he requests access and you have plans not your issue

Spero · 28/08/2018 13:10

Sorry to hear this but its pretty common I am afraid. I agree that you just set regular times for him and if he won't stick to them, his loss. you cannot be made to dance to this kind of tune, it will drive you crazy and its not fair on the children either.

If you want to know more about how the court process works, this website is for courts in the Bristol area, but the information it has about private law proceedings is the same all over the country. Its got a flow chart about the different court hearings etc.

www.familycourtinfo.org.uk

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