5 year old doesn't listen to me

[lyssie29]

I tell her to do or not to do something and she just ignores me. Ive tried rewards for helping or for being good etc but doesn't work. She doesn't seem to think. I let her on her bike in the front of the house for 2 minutes while I popped in and put the tea the oven. When I went back out she was gone. I told her not to go out the garden and away from the front of the house so obviously I was really worried. It turned out she had gone to her aunty's who lives about half a mile down the road!!! I can't believe she did that. I've asked her why she did it and why she ignored me when I told her not to leave the garden but she just started crying. She knows now how serious it was and has been sitting in her room quietly. I think she got a fright when realised how worried she'd made me etc. She is now banned from her bike and is not even allowed into the garden unless I can be there with her. How can I get her to listen to me??

She’s five. She needs to be with you, so you can show her what’s ok and what isn’t.
Put a lock on the garden gate and let her run around in safe space. Remove anything dangerous, leave the door open and keep talking to her while you are inside.

My ds didn’t really listen until 6 or 7 and wasn’t really trustworthy until 8 or 9.

It’s not that he means to break promises, he just forgets what he has agreed to do.

On your previous thread about moving you were advised not to leave them unattended. You said you never do and now you have, therefore not listening to the advice. If you as an adult don't listen, how can you expect your 5 year old to?

Don't mean to be rude, just pointing out how a 5 year old can be excused this behaviour.

@cantstandmenow thank you but she was in the garden not out in the streets. I went inside for 2 minutes to put something in the oven.