Is it right for the kids and am i making it harder on myself?

[Wellyboots86]

So ex and I divorce do over a year ago as drifted apart and then they cheated (still with new partner and kids see them a lot).

It was a massive emotional blow to me as we’d been together 15 years. 50/50 split with children now (3&2).

Recently we did a big day out which the kids loved and it felt very relaxed and normal but brought up a lot of old memories due to where we went. Eldest child is aware we aren’t together but does light up when we are all together again (not that often this happens).

Is it right for them to see that parents can still get along despite all that’s happened or is it just goi g to be confusing as the year get older? Am I hurting my own recovery due to how confused it makes me feel that we can be a happy family briefly but couldn’t make it work permanently? Is ex stringing me along or are there still feelings there? So many questions!

You have at least 15 more years of co-parenting to get through and that process will be much more tolerable if you can be civil to each other.
I don’t think you are harming the children as Ling as they understand that mum & dad live in different places but can still all do a birthday party together.
The real issue is how it makes you feel. Only you and ex can answer that. But I’d be very wary if he is with another woman. I’d keep days out together to a minimum until you feel stronger.