Wtf am I going to do

[hopelessshhouuse]

Partner has left me and I've lost my job.

0 income. Hundreds of £'s going out this month and missed payments. Getting calls all day long from company's waiting for bills to be paid and missed direct debits.

ExP is a student so doesn't have to pay any child maintenance.

I've got a job at the job centre later this week but until then- just absolute shit.

I have enough for food etc and the kids have no clue there's anything wrong.

Anybody else ever been in this position before? And come out the other side? Hand hold please :(

Not a job at the job centre 😑 An appointment

When I threw my exh out I had no money either.. I rang all the utility companies and told them the truth!! I needed to cancel all dd until I got a job!! They were fine!!. I was lucky enough to borrow for food but bills waited.

This was me just before christmas. As above, ring anybody you have a DD with & explain. If they don't know you're struggling they can't help! Lose all your pride in that respect. I found people were more reasonable than i expected.

I sold bits i didn't use/need - it was actually a brilliant chance to declutter tbh! OH left in November & by December I was head straight, knew what was what. It is possible, honest. Don't let the panic in your head take over

@mustbemad17

I've already borrowed money from everyone possible :( I've no dignity left.

I also have a newborn so going back to work yet isn't an option- I'm hoping I'll be able to claim some benefits but I'm just clueless

You need to phone all the companies and explain your situation. The job Center will help with benefits you should get income support housing benefit and child tax credits.
Also your local council might have a hardship fund which they can give you in emergency situations like that to tide you over.

Accept all the help and you will get there

Takes more courage to ask for help than to bury your head in the sand. Honestly don't feel bad for accepting help, even if you have to ask for it first.
The job centre should be able to help if you have a newborn, i went onto income support as was pregnant. If you rent you should get help there too. Depends on if you are UC area or not but they should fill you in

So sorry OP 🙁

Why have you got an interview for a job at the job centre if you can't work because of a newborn?

Your ex shouldn't be just let off the hook with this - it should be his responsibility as well.

@HollowTalk

I didn't mean for a job sorry I got all muddled, it's too see if I'm eligible for any benefits.
Unfortunately he is completely off the hook! Until he leaves university next year :(

Call gingerbread the charity for single parents and they will be snore to give you some advice on benefits etc x

Have you posted this before? Just curious, if not there is a post similar to yours might be worth having a look on those and seeing if any of the advice on there makes you feel better!