So cross - unpaid child maintenance.

[TurnipFish]

Ex & I separated 2 years ago, no issue over paying cm, in fact he’s been paying more than the minimum suggested. During September, October & November last year he paid less than the minimum due to “car expenses”. I let it go although didn’t make it easy for me. This weekend he was due to drop off the money ( always does it in cash which is actually a pain for me but at least it means he sees the dc’s ) only to be told that he doesn’t have it - absolutely nothing.
I’m just so angry, it means the dcs miss out, thankfully they’re old enough to understand, it’s not fair though. I have pointed out I have bills to pay too & I have no one I can turn to & say “sorry, not this month”.
Just needed to vent really or I’d be spending the whole week randomly swearing!

Then you need to go through CMS. It may mean he pays only the minimum, but at least you’ll get it.

Imagine just turning up and saying he can’t pay it. Or putting car expenses before ensuring your kids get fed.

He’s disgusting.

Cms now. Imagine telling your landlord that you can't make the rent this month as you have car expenses. Outrageous behaviour from your ec.

I agree cms . Does he think his children need nothing this month . ESP during school holidays .

Did he give any explanation at all ?

Thank you, I am planning to go to CMS then at least if he tries this stunt again I can do something about it. I’d rather have less each month than nothing. He just said he was behind with everything, not my fault he chose to live in a fucking ridiculous expensive one bed tiny flat so he can’t even have them to stay. It wouldn’t have been quite so bad if I’d had warning a couple of weeks ago, not on the day the money is due.
I can’t believe how angry I still feel, I try to avoid talking to him as it is, this is the final straw 😡

Yep go through CMS, if he is like my EX he will forever make excuses espec when a new DP is on the scene.