For some reason I am feeling lonely and down today.

[Pinkchampagne]

I've been on my own for over 3 weeks now, and I seemed to be coping with it all pretty well, but today I have been feeling low.

The boys have been with their dad since lunchtime at my parents house (parents are away) & are staying overnight, and my house seems so quite & lonely. I actually feel like crying & I don't really know why I have hit this sudden low today.
One of my friends has just phoned me before going off on her holiday tomorrow & she could tell straight away that I sounded a bit lower than normal, but I don't know why I'm like this today. I just feel really alone & a bit of a misery!
Did anyone else have moments of hitting horrible lows like this, weeks after the actual separation?

Harman and Nutty it will happen honestly there are loads of good men out there, perhaps not at the moment but they will come! There are so many advantages to being on your own and I try and think of those and not being lonely. I am on my own (despite a serious offer from someone I loved) because I choose to be. When the real right person comes along I will know I am sure. I want to be happy with myself before I commit to anyone else ever again.

Actually I watch Bridget Jones and think that was me and then I fell for the wrong guy. Thank god I am divorced!

That is a really positive attitude, glitter.
I just can't even begin to think of future relationships right now, I can't imagine letting another man into my life, but maybe one day that will change!

I am feeling a bit better today. I have the boys back (& don't I just know it!!), and I've had a friend round with her children this afternoon. All the children made loads of mess, and I am tidying at my own pace, rather than panicking about H walking in & going mad!

Just had DS1 say "I miss daddy" as I put him to bed.
I gave him a hug & told him that he would see daddy tomorrow & that we both love him lots.
Poor boys.

Oh it's hard, it does get better I promise. Promise.

It's been 3 months for me now, and I am definately less stressed.

Thanks, colditz. Pleased to hear you are feeling much less stressed now.

Sorry you are having a bad one. I've been on my own for 6 years. My son is 9 years old. My ex hangs about like a bad smell, but we have developed a friendship now, originally for the boy's sake. Just think of the positives. A second chance to get it right, you can do what you like in your home - no one to pass comment, and you can revert to a you that you know - and all those horrible habits he had won't be adopted by your child! Bliss!

I am already noticing lots of those positives, PhilG! I have been doing ok-ish considering it is still very early days, so was quite taken aback to suddenly feel so very low yesterday, over 3 weeks after my move!

I think some of the reason may have been because I had an empty house, with no distractions from the children or anyone else, and not only did it feel horribly lonely, but I had time to just think. Up until now, I have been pretty busy & also tried not to get upset in front of the boys, even from day 1. Yesterday it was just me, and I think my head was trying to absorb too much! Does that make any sense at all??

Also I know this is effecting the boys a lot, and DS1 saying he missed his daddy at bedtime, really got to me tonight.