Rights when ex wants more access (alcoholic)

[Eesha]

Hi,

As post says, my ex is an alcoholic. We informally agreed he would see children on weekends at my place but he hasn't turned up much. I have now decided to insist it is a specific day but again it has been hit and miss when he comes. He has a couple of harrassment orders against him from different women. He wants to stay over more with me so he can see children but ive said no and he is suggesting he has children every other weekend now. I really don't trust him to have them due to the drinking and unstable personality but id like to understand whether I would have any rights if I said no to him having them.

Do you have concerns that he will drink to excess whilst the children are in his care overnight? If yes then you are not unreasonable to say no.
I have been where you are I would suggest getting legal advice so you feel confident about what you need to do.
In all likelihood he will kick and scream a bit and then give up.
I didn't have enough evidence till my ExH was arrested for drink driving with DD in the car. Only after he was convicted did I have evidence to reduce contact.

I think he may drink, but no proof. I thought the recent harrassment/drunken cases which he was arrested for might be enough evidence. I actually think he tries to bully me when things aren't going his way.

18months

I think fair point about regularly seeing them, but he gets lazy or might be hungover or seeing someone which then gets in the way of seeing the kids.

Would it be better for him to see them on neutral ground, soft play or somewhere similar?