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How to get him out of my head and start dating again? (sorry, long)

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arwen · 28/05/2007 10:32

And I don't mean my exdh. I have had a very brief fling with a man who asked me out over a year ago but it has taken me a long time to be ready to give up on my marriage and move on. We had a few dates and had a good time. If I am honest, my first impressions were that he is lovely but personality wise I am a bit hyper and neurotic and he is laid back so it didn't seem like love match of the cntury. Anyway he has been really kind and attentive ( things which I have really missed in the last 2 years) and I was looking forward to having some fun. Anyway he has now met someone he has 'clicked' with and wants us just to stay friends. Am sure this is a wise move in the long term but am gutted as I did want some fun! Am finding it really hard to let go, esp as he is still being fairly encouraging. I know most of it is all in my head, there was very little between us to build on, just my happy ever after fantasies. I guess what I (in a long winded way) am asking is should I take a deep breath and try internet dating to meet new people? This isn't how I wanted my first few dates in a long time to end! Could really do with a confidence boost and am really quite scared about internet dating and being hurt again. am not sure I am strong enough for that. On the other hand would love someone to go to dinner with occasionally and god forbid maybe rekindle my long neglected sex life! How do I get started and is it a good idea?

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Tinkerbel5 · 28/05/2007 11:07

oh go for it, just be honest on your profile with what you want and go for it, sounds like this other guy wanted more than a bit of fun which really isnt a bad thing, but if you arent ready for that then just find a 'friendship' in someone, good luck.

NuttyMuffins · 28/05/2007 11:19

Tbh if you are not sure you are strong enough for internet dating then you probably aren't.

I am registered on a few sites and tbh all they do is knock my confidence even lower because of the type of response i get (old or married men normally)

I am sure there probably are some genuine people on there, but i think they must be very few and far between.

I think meeting someone in real life is a much better bet, obviously you need a social life to do that though LOL.

matilda57 · 02/06/2007 09:43

Well hun, it's a rejection, even though he has been very kind about it. Rejections are hard to take at the best of times, let alone when you're a bit fragile.

Not sure about the internet dating tbh? esp if you are feeling vulnerable. I'd give it a miss for now, and hope you meet some in RL so you can get a better gauge on him iyswim. X

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