No Family, Friends or Partner

[LonelyJemma]

New here.

I'm a 30-odd year old mum of two with no friends, family and no partner or any male interest. Is anyone in the same boat? I just feel incredibly alone and think no one else understands how I'm feeling. Some days I'm ok but other days (like today-I've had a horrible day with these kids) I'm beyond stressed and desperate for just a weekend to myself the only time I get to myself is when they're at school.

The group is now up and running I see (without joining it myself) four new messages today! The group's name is No_FFP. A much needed group. I'm posting so as to bump this thread into mumsnet's "Active threads"... more people will see it...

new link for group - that one didn't work!

www.facebook.com/groups/128927041312022/about/

Who set the group up?
The only member is a faceless blank profile?

yes, i created a new FB account for it so it wasn't linked to my real name.

It's really sad that everyone who feels lonely also feels an urge not to mention it to anyone, to keep secret about it, or if they say they're lonely they always add the caveat "...but I do have some friends!".

it is sad. I have invented social events just to seem like I have friends. I am obviously believed as when I commented lightly about being billy no mates my work colleague refused to believe me!

yes, i created a new FB account for it so it wasn't linked to my real name

Don't take this wrong way, but can I ask why?
Wouldn't the purpose of a group for support and friendship be just that ? Support and friendship? Kind of undermined if fake profiles and names are used.

Yes, sure. I don't want it linking to my real name on MN - once the group is established then I will join with my real name and delete the alternative.
Otherwise the clicky link shows everybody my real name now when I have posted stuff on MN that means I could be outed.

i mean, when there are several members i could be any of them but when i am the only one it's obvious who I am on MN.

Kzmic don’t know if I’m too late to comment on this, but are you in NE Fife (ie near Dundee)

Hi as I said I'm not on Facebook is there any other way to join please

I feel similar. I don’t have kids but I have a tiny family (basically just my parents) and acquaintances but no solid friendship group or a best friend. Never have done, I’m just one of those people who’s never really fitted in. It’s good to know I’m not alone but obviously not good that other people are sad about it!

I’ve been there.

What brought it home to me was that if I died dc would be alone in the house with a corpse for a long time before anyone would notice.

Life has turned around now and I have almost no time to myself!

Do voluntary work, get involved in community activities, join the PTA, find a cause you care about and do some activism, go to events, find other single mums to do swap childcare, study a course- eventually you’ll make new friends and may find someone who’s good enough to be your dp and even have more dcs with.

There is hope!

Hi girls..I have just joined and read your messages..I am feeling so depressed with life..got a lovely little boy who is 8 years old and I adore him but feel so lonely as a single old mum...I feel so guilty I haven't bought him up in a normal family environment..I have no friends around...I need a wry to make some new girlie mates...I live in Birmingham

Again. Any way to join without Facebook?

Yummy you can't join a Facebook group without Facebook.
I can't think of another platform for a group like that. Maybe Kik or WhatsApp but that's giving personal details away.

So glad I found this tonight. Currently very lucky to be on holiday with my 4 year old buuuuut hating pretty much every second & have never felt as alone in my life. Staying in the middle of nowhere and if we go out we are surrounded by happy families, Todays excitement was going to buy some ice we didn't need just so I could see someone ... anyone (even though I speak about 10 words of the language here). But I can't tell you how much it's helped to see I'm not the only one, so Thank you all. Can't believe I thought it would be a good idea to come away just us, but literally have no-one to come so it was that or stay home & life goes on right. (Now I'll spend ages giving myself a talking to because I'm behaving like a spoiled brat - sorry, I know I am )

Hey Mamma lamb, yeah I am in NE Fife

I know this is an older thread but Klutzy, did you manage to set up a FB group? I live in NI and the school holidays started back on 28 June!! He’s a brilliant boy and I have lots of support compared to most but.... God....

The days are long.

Fell over this thread accidentally after having a little moan to myself about being lonely! Will try to join the group, if that's OK?

Hi
I am new member. Going through divorce and feeling emotionally down most of the time. Anyone here from Buckinghamshire? Ferling very nervous while Taking kids for day out first time on my own.

Hi. I am new here. Going through divorce.feel emotionally down most of the time. Feeling nervous taking kids to holidays first time on my own. Learning to manage things with kids. Finding life really tough. Frienfs n family are there but no one to help n support.Anyone here from buckinghamshire by chance?

Hi, I've just clicked join on the group :-)

Count me in!

Single parent for nearly 14 years. Welsh Marches so there aren’t even many people here, let alone lone parents!