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School hols

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Cb148 · 06/07/2018 22:10

Hi,

My husband has recently announced he is leaving. I have 2 children, who are 3 and 6.

I'm just wondering what most people do about school hols. I've seen it mentioned that Dad's often get half the school holidays? Is that generally the done thing?

Thanks

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Starlight345 · 06/07/2018 23:27

Yes it is common but it is also about what works for you. Does ex actually want half of school holidays ?

NorthernSpirit · 07/07/2018 08:38

Yes, 50% of all holidays is the norm - do that’s alternative Christmas, Easter and half of all school hols.

My OH has it written into his contact order.

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Cb148 · 07/07/2018 09:16

Thanks guys. He hasn't mentioned wanting half of them yet but am just trying to mentally prepare myself for what's coming. This is all such a massive shock and a really big change.

Also trying to decide on a career, am currently a SAHM so really want (need) to get myself on track to a decent career, so am wondering about annual leave etc. Am considering teaching.

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HugeAckmansWife · 08/07/2018 09:14

Teaching is a godsend in terms of covering the holiday childcare but it's frantic in term time and mentally exhausting.. I Iove it and teach in a great school but I spend all day interacting and giving and when I get home I find it hard to then keep doing that with my own kids.

I'm sorry this has happened to you. You will be OK in time.. Lots of us have been where you are. Half the holidays is the norm but many NRPs dont want to use all their annual leave on it, especially if the RP was / is a SAHM.

Kingsclerelass · 09/07/2018 23:18

When you get back to work, look around for holiday clubs for next year when I guess your dc2 will be starting school.
I get 25 days holiday. I take two weeks holiday in summer, one week at Easter and one at Christmas. That leaves me 5 days to cover onset days etc.
Ex has ds for one half term, 5 days between Xmas & new year plus one or two weeks in summer.
That leave 1 week at Easter, 2 weeks in summer, and two half terms to spend at holiday club which ds likes because he spends time with his mates. Or swap days with other mums
It’s always a bit tight but perfectly possible.

Noqont · 09/07/2018 23:21

I use before and after school clubs, and holiday clubs. I would expect ex to pay towards this, share time etc.

Starlight345 · 10/07/2018 07:36

So long as they are paying legal minimum csa there don’t have to pay towards childcare so no point excepting

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