Ex lives 120 miles away. 3 hour journey for dcs.
He has them eow and meet half way at a service station.
Here is the problem:
He can never ever tell me what time he can collect them from the service station due to his job. I get a phone call from him (just had one now) every other Friday morning confirming the time.
Sometimes it's at a reasonable time. 5.30. Kids are back at his for 7.
Tonight he's said he can't collect them until 8pm - 8.30pm. That's too late. They won't be back at his until 10pm at the earliest.
Ds is autistic. The travelling alone is too much for him. But to get there so late will leave him exhausted for the weekend. Then he has to travel back on Sunday. He will be so tired.
On top of that, it's unfair that the kids just don't know what time they are going. I never know what I'm doing either.
I understand it's his job and yes he pays maintenance (this is the first thing he says to me when I say the collection time is too late) but he isn't thinking about the needs of his children at all.
I'm just so frustrated. I never know what's happening. Ideally, I should be collecting the kids up from school and traveling straight to the service station. I'd be there for 5/5:30. He would have them home for 7/7:30. They are always so tired by this point but means they get a good nights sleep (though he doesn't even have a bed for them, they share a bed - they are 9 and 7)
Would this annoy anyone else? Or am I being unreasonable? Like I say, I understand it's his job. I totally get that. But it's only every other Friday this needs to happen and we just need a routine that's in place. Not me waiting until Friday morning to know what's happening. Now I have to decide wether it's worth sending them or not. I will send them as I'll never take time away from their dad. But poor ds is just going to be physically and mentally exhausted when he gets home.
Sorry for the rant