Oh bleeding heck I need some help

[ShittingShitOnIt]

N/C just in case anyone I know is on here 😬

So I've been single for 4 years now, had to leave dds dad as he was domestically and emotionally abusive, not so much as sniffed at another man as I felt I had a lot of healing to do and didn't want to jump too fast, anyway, I've recently started texting somebody, a friend of a friend, I knew him well enough to say hello and have a basic conversation with when I was out and about, but not well enough to say he was a friend.

Every time he texts I'm get this horrible feeling that I shouldn't be texting him, I don't feel worthy of the attention, I get that horrible butterfly feeling in the pit of your stomach, this guy is absolutely lovely no threat whatsoever but I really don't know why I feel this way?! I guess it could be nerves but maybe I'm not ready to be talking to someone else yet?! When will I ever be ready? Will I know I'm ready? I don't know if anyone has any advice out there but please bring me down from the ceiling

Anxiety is quite normal and to be expected. Just try to push through it!

That’s because your ex conditioned you to feel your “unworthy/wrong etc”. It’s normal to be slightly nervous. Try to take it all at face value, if he’s complimenting you it’s because you deserve a compliment. Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with but don’t let your ex control you by stopping you enjoying yourself either. When you’re with him you’ll know if you’re ready.