Struggling to get sons dad to have him

[Bubz16]

Hey guys im new to this and need some advice please, me and my sons dad have been separated a year now and this is our current situation which i want to change. My ex didnt see my son for 9 weeks his choice so i agreed to do this he comes every night for bath and bed, and has him on a sunday afternoon when it suits him, he has had 2 sleepovers with his dad in a year! I have asked him on numerous occasions to have his son for weekend but always says he is working i have recently discovered this is lies and he hasnt been working, i offered that we go to mediation to try and make an agreement in seeing our son. He refuses to attend mediation, what should i do?
Thankss

He’s basically using you as a nanny, he can pop over when he feels like it and leave you to do all the hard graft. It also stops you from forming a new relationship.

I think you need to go to court & get a contact order. It won’t force him to show up, but it will set certain parameters as “reasonable”, one of them being he can’t expect to use your home as a nursery. If he wants to see his son, he collects him from the door step and takes him home. Time to start telling him “no”