Ex taken me to court but has lied on his proceedings form

[pippypoppypanda]

Hi I'm new to mumsnet was hoping to get some advice.

My 5 month old son's father has filed court proceedings as he wants more contact than we have arranged previously through solicitors. I got the papers this morning and he's said that we split up at such and such a time but we were never a couple.

He has also cited events that haven't happened and which I can prove he is lying about as I have kept a diary of all texts (they are also still on my phone). Will he get away with this?

I have also found out that he is behaving irresponsibly when my son is in his care - he was seen wondering the street with a gang of his friends with my son and they had no pram, one of his frinds was carrying him, and that he has been bad mouthing me for keeping his son from him even though I have offered him to visit any time he will not come here.

I'm going out of my mind with worry if anyone can help I'l be so grateful.

Hi

just saying hello because i can't help I'm afraid. I feel lots of sympathy for you and can understand you are worried.

I'm sure someone else will be able to help

this sounds horrible for you.

i would suggest getting legal advice asap.

if you can prove he is being irresponsible and lying then i would imagine you can lock him down to supervised access.

the courts will decide in the best interest of the child not the parents.

really hope you get some support and help and the situation resolved soon.

Hi PPP

Get yourself to a Solicitor asap. You may be eligible for Legal Aid, www.direct.gov.uk/en/Diol1/DoItOnline/DG_4018051?cids=Google_PPC&cre=Money. if not most Solicitors will provide you 30minutes for free.

Write down all the texts, times he has had your lo and any conversations between you. You could lose the information on your phone. Inform your solicitor of all the mistakes as I am sure he or she would provide the correct information from your side when the time comes.

Please try to stop going out of your mind, I know how painful it is and how upset and angry you must be but it will not do you any good to be worrying when you can't do anything about it. He is still trying to control you and at the moment he is winning. You are right to be concerned about how he looks after your child and you should express that to your Solicitor. If he wants to go for more contact, tell your solicitor that you want to go for residence at the same time.

Going to court can be a lengthy business. CAFCASS can be involved and they have to interview both of you at your homes and observe both of you with your chld. My solicitor informed me that contact cases can take up to 6 months at the moment. Keep yourself calm and polite when you have to correspond with him and remind yourself that you do know what is best for your child.

George x

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