I left my husband 7 years ago, we have 2 children a 9 and 10 year old.
I won't lie and I know all women say this about their exes but he is a waste of space. He began to disappear from the kids life around 5 years ago and fully vanished around 2 and a half years ago. The made peace with the fact their dad was gone and we are doing well.
My children were the first to be born he now has another three girls and a boy all to different women that I know about. It's me that's baring the brunt of this.
I don't claim maintenance as I'd rather never have to think of him again, plus i don't really need the money and he's on disability so I wouldn't get much but his exes come to me!
They aren't nice and they seem to get worse and worse but they message with hey I have your kids half brother/sister wanna meet up? I have contact with the boy, I don't speak to her she will message with a time and place in the park we won't sit together but the kids will play together and they know who he is.
My concern is, is some of these mothers are drug addicts or total lunatics and while I raise my kids well I can't be sure they do the same. He chooses weak single mums, moves in immediately, drains them financially then moves on and if having a child keeps him with a roof over his head longer so be it! Hell the first one was conceived a month before we broke up to my best friend and godmother of my children (Funnily enough she went MIA after the split). But in the future what happens when these kids start looking for answers? When they begin to hunt siblings down and my kids are forever plagued with this into adulthood. I try be as honest as possible with my kids we have a very transparent relationship so they know what he's like. Anyone else had issues like this? or have any advice on how to handle this?
Thankyou