Stepmom from hell...Arghhh!!!

[MommaTo3Cubs]

Anyone else’s childrens Stepmom completely unhinged?!?!?! Seriously I don’t understand how this woman was a primary school teacher up until last year! It all went sour last September when my eldest told me he overheard his Dad and her talking about moving away behind my back and just taking the kids! So I got a Solicitor involved and started Mediation proceedings, whilst waiting for that I’ve have abuse from her in front of my children. One day the kids were supposed to be at their grandparents but their Dad left them with her, I arranged to go pick them up and she refused to hand them over! I ended up having to get the police involved! They kept threatening to move away with the kids stating they could do what they liked! Then Mediation their Dad turns up just wanting discuss contact. Said he wanted zero flexibility in agreement then moans there’s no flexibility after agreement made. Now I’m going back to Mediation and have received harassing texts/calls from their stepmom stating “it is her business and I just have to like it”. SERIOUSLY THIS WOMAN IS SOMETHING ELSE!!! Unfortunately Children’s Dad has no backbone and has always been a Mommy’s boy, I think I shall be bringing up the harassment in Mediation.

Rant over

Um. Are you in the USA? Are things different over there in terms of parental rights etc.?
If not, then she has no rights over your children at all, and cannot keep them from you - although their father can. But if he's not there, then she can't.

WRT moving away ‘behind your back’ they can do what they want, they don’t have to ask for your permission.

When the kids are with the dad he can do what he wants with them. They were ‘supposed’ to be at their grandparents, but they were left with the GF instead. He can do what he wants on his time (just lie you do what you want and don’t have to ask his permission). As for her refusing to hand the kids over - nothing to do with you, it was dads time.

You sound a little controlling and emotionally involved.

NorthernSpirit I don’t think you’ve read my post properly, yes when the kids are with Dad, he can do what he likes. However they were planning on moving out of the country, removing our children from their school behind my back and ceasing all contact. We both have parental responsibility so if he wanted to move away then he would’ve had to do it through the correct legal channels, not just vanish!
Also, when I picked our children up from her house which had been arranged, she refused to hand over the children to me. It was change over and my time to have them, he was at work. She decided that she did not want to hand them over even though she has no parental responsibility, slammed the door and locked the children in the house. I could hear this woman shouting, I phoned their Dad to tell him she wouldn’t hand them over and his response “Pfft, I'm at work”, so the police got involved then as she had no right whatsoever to keep the children in the house with her.

She sounds hideous! Unfortunately I have to deal with another similar sounding step mother who thinks she has the same rights as myself. I too wouldn’t hesitate to call the police in your circumstance!

@northernspirit of course she’s emotionally involved she’s talking about her children! Again not sure why you’re giving your opinions on this forum when you aren’t even a lone parent! Clearly you have issues with your husband’s ew and seem to linger on this forum for some strange reason. Current partners like yourself getting involved and interfering only causes trouble.

NorthernSpirit, every post i read from you is always the same. The Stepmum has no right to interfere or refuse to hand her stepchildren over. I think you need to stop offloading your issues on every post.

Northern seriously - Mum turns up to pick up her DCS at agreed time and the SM refuses to hand them over - what part of that is even vaguely correct.

Her DCS have heard Dad talking about moving away and taking the DCS - what part of that would not put the fear up the other parent.

Yes Dad can do what he wants on his time and you have just endorsed him mving away without telling the other parent and you say that is right.

You are losing sight of what actually matters here.