Let's appreciate how much our exes are a piece of ****!

[Hannabee123]

He's abusive
He and his mother attacked me
I fled after getting my child back
I'm building my life from nothing but a few bags of clothes.
His visitation got revoked for further abuse
He's now in a contact centre
He writes that he doesn't want to buy her any toys he doesn't want to watch her development milestones, he doesn't want to participate in her favourite activities. She's perfectly fine sitting there on his knee for 2 hours.
Oh but he wants me to give him all her health visitor and doctors records.. What the actual fuck.

Can we just take a moment to appreciate how our exes are little shits?

Mine didn't see DD until she was almost 3 (his choice) and then stopped talking to her for 6 weeks when she was 16, then told her it was all her fault and he needed a "break" from her. She's now been nc with him for 2 years, which he's decided is my fault.

He only ever saw her at his parents house, she's never even known where he lives, and if she stayed with them overnight he never stayed there with her.

He constantly used to change his days with her because he was going out or going to the football and he once didn't come to watch her dance in a show at a local theatre because it was his niece's birthday party.

That was cathartic!

Mine's a massive piece of shit (not a little one!)

Fortunately DC are in their late teens now and don't have much to do with him. They saw through his crap a long time ago. I had so many years of him messing them about, not turning up for contact, not bothering with their birthdays and Christmas, never showing an interest in their school or hobbies. Then, every time he met a new woman, wanting to play super Dad with them. Never paying a penny towards them. Ranting and raving at me down the phone.

So, relieved he's out of my life and don't have to have any involvement with him anymore.

Counting down the years until mine hopefully has nothing to do with him

i hate my ex so much. seen our baby once in her life and shes 13 months. he has now decided to cut all contact and i havent seen or heard from him since december. he has left me to raise 4 children (one disabled) alone. and pays the grand sum of £13 a fortnight for 4 kids.

Well I left mine 7 years ago, we are still married. I recently started going through the divorce procedure. I was told by his GF he had signed the papers but the courts said they haven't received them which i thought odd. Then one day the GF messaged me, he used the papers to set fire to her house because she was trying to make him sign them.

So I asked her where he was she told me she threw him out and didn't know. I decided to go with my parents and hand deliver the forms. She was outside she said she hadn't seen him in weeks blah blah. I left and drove 5 mins down the road I facebook messaged him "I will give you £50 if you tell me where you are and sign these today". Immediately he replied and told me to meet him at the shop near hers in 30 mins. I got there early and watched him leave her house. He came to the car my mum got out with the papers he spoke to nobody not even the kids in the back. Signed the papers took the money and left! As I drove off he stood looking at the car from her house crying (WTF???). It would have cost far more if he hadn't have signed them though but he too £50 of the mother of his kids who he's never paid a penny to.

For the first few years of our split he sent my son a birthday card with a £20 toy voucher in but never sent my daughter a thing. In the end to stop her upset of why she never got anything from him but her brother did I would open the card and throw it away then take them shopping and split the voucher and not tell them where it came from!

The last time he saw my kids he showed up at my parents house with a 2 month old baby that was sick with a cold in the snow without a coat. He did it to try show me he was a happy family man now and he'd had another baby. It didn't work because I don't care but that poor baby.

2 months after we broke up my best friend announced she was 3 months pregnant . I asked her who the father was she told me it was a celebrity and she had to keep it quiet (yes I believed her) she then vanished out of my life into thin air. Turns out he slept with her on our wedding night and they'd been having an affair the whole time we were married.

My ex told my ds's I was a prostitute.
Karma arrived and they are nc with him now.

How did nc happen my ex has been horrendous but the court won't out us out of our misery

At 12 dc stopped seeing him, had been 50/50 ish, court ordered, exh never contacted either of us.

@hannahbee123 I never contact him first court order or no court order in place you do not have to chase him around getting him to do what he’s supposed to!
Have you asked for a drug test on him or is there nothing you can pick at?
Social services kept getting involved with me because we were fully investigated every time he messed up (not relating to my kids but because he had contact they had to look at us) the social worker looked at the stack of books I had for my uni course and he looked at me and said “you know what? Just cut him off look at the trouble he’s bringing into your life and I’d hate for him to hurt yours and you have your career taken too” i was shocked I queried if this was an official social service thing he just said no but he would vouch for me with what he’s seen.
These men soon vanish if you don’t chase them but with court involved it could be more difficult

Yeah it's going through courts has been for a while now he can't let go of the control over me

Oh Hannah I've just realised it's you. I followed your thread when you were trying to get your baby back.

I'm so glad that you've got as far as you have but so sorry that he's still trying to be a controlling arse. Wish I could give you some advice but I'll happily bump this so hopefully someone wiser will be along shortly x

Yeah he's still at it we've been to court loads. Still holding in there waiting for him to do something stupid so we can be released from him and his behaviour :(

To much to write in one post but yes total waste of oxygen. Enough to put me off men forever.