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Ex coming 'home'

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Hardworktoday · 06/06/2018 21:50

Would just like to have a rant as have no one to talk to at moment.

Nearly ex H hasjust announced (under the guise of asking) that he is moving back to my village a year after leaving. He won't see DDs any more often (currnetly 1.3 nights per week ave!) but we'll have to frequesntly go past his new bloody flat while he's in it doing whatever the fuck he does with his free time.

They're tiny girls still and have adapted so well. He's currently a 15 min drive away which is great but doesn't like his crappy rental (well you could still be living in family home if you'd actully participated, ever) and he'll save 100 quid a month by living here. And he's got approx 3 weeks to find somewhere and has only just 'got round' to doi g anything about it (story of his life) so oddly enough there's no choice.

I'm so angry. They've been such stars and I don't want to risk any upset. And now in a couple of weeks I'llbe picking themup from school/pre school knowing daddy is just there doing whatever and not with them. Andwhenever we go past I'll know he's THERE.

He's not once been up eldest's school this year for any reason (in spite of mediation claims of how involved he'll be) and it will be a bit like rubbing her face in it to have himjust round the corner. He doesn't seem to realise how litttle he has to do with their lives.

I wonder if it'spartly regret bringing him back. Well too bloody late, and now he's coming back to our turfand I can't do anything about it! ARGH!

OP posts:
NorthernSpirit · 07/06/2018 11:14

You sound really emotionally attached.

He can live where he wants. In the long run it may be better as if he’s closer he can spend more time with the kids. So you get more of a break.

Nothing you can do so don’t waste your energy on it.

headinhands · 07/06/2018 11:16

There's no need for it to affect the kids unless they hear you making comments about it.

RunningBean · 08/06/2018 10:09

If going past triggers them asking to see him just say he's at work.

Starlight2345 · 09/06/2018 11:54

What is 1.3 nights a week?

I am not entirely sure what part of him living closer is bothering you.

He is free to do with his time away from the children as are you?

I doubt the moving closer will affect the children. There norm becomes there norm.

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